Comments on: Solo Weekend

By: lisa

lisa — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 20:05:27 +0000

you didn’t imply that you were a hero in your post, your post was cute. it was everyone’s reaction that i found to be a bit crazy.

i am not making assumptions. i’m telling you what it is like in the many relationships around me when the “guy” steps into the “mom” role for a few hours even, let alone a weekend. that includes the dads who appear to go the extra mile and are considered very modern, very hands on kinds of dads. they still get kudos when they do anything outside of those gender roles that you feel i’m making assumptions about. this is real life…not pc world. we are far from having balanced roles in the household however much progress women may have made. until the cell phones of my girlfriends stop ringing the minute they step out of the house and leave the kids with dad…and until men stop using the word “babysit” when they are left home with the kids, i’ll remain unimpressed

By: blurb

blurb — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 17:20:37 +0000

@lisa, I agree with you. Just doing it isn’t worthy of kudos.

My point in posting this wasn’t to say that I’m a hero for doing this. It was to say that puppies are harder to live with than I remember.

Your assumption about gender roles is laughable.

By: lisa

lisa — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 11:58:39 +0000

um…hang on. hang on.
single parents? it appears to me that this is how HEATHER has it. if she were there, she would be the one handling leta & the dog, no? why is everyone giving you “kudos” for simply doing your job? does Heather get congratulations every day for going through the normal routine? i just find this weird. and i’m not just talking about heather. in every relationship i know where a couple has kids, the woman takes care of the crying at night, meals, getting the kid dressed, etc. etc. while the guy does his thing. when she isn’t there and the guy has to do NORMAL every day things…all hell breaks loose. i sympathize with you having a rough time of it because you aren’t used to it, but i certainly don’t think “great job” and “congrats” are in order. good grief. reason #9,547 why i have no desire to have children.

By: jen

jen — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 11:34:54 +0000

Like Becky above I’m a sole parent of a nearly 7 year old and I also don’t know any other way. A good sleep routine has helped me through, that, alcohol and earplugs. I do exaggerate slightly. I too am off for a girlie weekend this weekend and bloody hell I need it. I’m being put off the puppy idea though. I think our next dog will be a 2 year old like my current dog was when I got her.

By: Holly

Holly — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 20:49:42 +0000

Hey, you did it and that’s awesome! I am newly separated and I have a 1 year old and 6 year old. I watch 3 other kids during the day too…. let’s just say my blog, my email and my internet are very needed! It’s hard, but it becomes a part of life. I love my kids to pieces, but there are challenges every day. We all face them, but as you can see yourself, we all triumph.

By: Greg

Greg — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 20:12:27 +0000

Buddy, you and I had the EXACT same weekend. It’s almost eerie. My wife was also in San Francisco for her work conference (NADA) and I was left with my two boys (5 1/2 and 2 1/2) from Thursday night to… right now actually. I pick mom up tonight.

We also have two dogs and my lab is the biggest baby on the planet. Of course he whistles and whines to go out when I’m at the most delicate moment of putting my 2 year old time bomb to sleep. The slightest move would awaken the terror for another 30 minutes to an hour.

In short… I feel your pain!

Greg
Austin

By: tammy

tammy — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 17:41:08 +0000

lol
glad you made it through
but seriously dude,
like you would even admit it was not that hard to do if it was

you would be in worse trouble

reminds me of an episode i saw on reruns

Andy and Opie do just fine the week Aunt Bea is gone
Rush around and try to make messes so she doesnt FREAK OUT that they were not FREAKED OUT that she was gone

Dude no way if the weekend was a breeze shhhhhh no one needs to know….kid didnt ask for mom….shhhhh…..of course she did ALL THE TIME

By: Betsy Barron

Betsy Barron — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 15:52:38 +0000

Sing it, brother. Sing it loud!

By: Marielle

Marielle — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 15:21:34 +0000

I remember when I had #3, terrible labor, emergency c-section, baby issues. etc. And all my husband could talk about was HOW HARD HE HAD IT AT HOME (you know, doing what I did every other day of the kids’ lives). There I was, in a hospital bed having gone through hell and back with a baby in the ICU but HE HAD TO WAKE THE KIDS TO TAKE THE DOG OUT AT 11PM. I could have killed him. What is it with men?

But I am envious of people who can just open a door and let a dog out. I love living in NYC, but getting halfway dressed and taking the dog downstairs and outside is a pain. Esp with a puppy when you do it ten times. Or when you have a kid upstairs that you don’t want to leave alone even for 5 minutes.

By: moon

moon — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 03:20:34 +0000

Try Hills Science diet, if you aren’t already. Better dog foods are much better than those grocery store brands. Sadly, I found out after one of my cats died from the food, but it has been a good lesson and it has helped, depsite the cost.