January 29, 2008 Super Happy Fun News Middle-age is truly depressing, study finds – Yahoo! News Awesome. Maybe this is what is happening to me? Aside from the vacation that went bad and the sick family? TwitterFacebookGoogle+DeliciousTumblr http://silentgoddess.etsy.com Lane Ah-HA! That must be it Now I have the perfect excuse and I can say I figured it out all thanks to Yahoo. http://www.authorsden.com/annelcunningham anne cunningham I was thinking the same thing when I logged in today. Like, hey, Yahoo, thanks for that bit of cheer! 45, and thought I was still holding, but apparently have been going downhill emotionally (it’s just that it doesn’t show up all in one day!) So Yahoo has to wake us up and tell us how shitty we are feeling and why! Marie My fiance and I just watched that story on the nightly ABC news with Charlie Gibson. The entire time he was pointing at the tv saying..see..see. I am 31 ansd he is 42. And he is moody…but in a charming way. PS I hope you guys are feelling better. My fiance passed a stomach bug to me. I thought I may have been in the clear but I found out last night when I was up all night that I did not escape it. http://marty-marty-marty.blogspot.com/ marcia sounds like SAD(seasonal affective disorder) for the depression. you work at home; have you checked your house for the sick house syndrome?it could be something as simple as one cleaning product. Winter sucks; think positive Candi Ah, that really bums me out. Looking SO forward to regaining that “joy of youth” in my golden years. My mamaw experienced that, except we called it dementia. Kudos Yahoo! My condolences on the vacation. Hope you all feel better very soon. http://dailypiglet.wordpress.com piglet i’ve probably been watching too much “mystery diagnosis” but i wonder if you guys could be having an allergy to something in your new home? just a thought i wanted to share. http://www.catsaremyfave.blogspot.com Amy What a depressing article! Kinda kills the fun doesn’t it! You know what…..head to a sauna and sit in there for a while…clears the head no end. wry catcher Dude, I’ve been calling it a “mid-life crisis” for the past three fucking years. I think I need to rename it midlifestandardsuckassness. And lord, it DOES suck. When I saw this article this morning, I was definitely thinking it explained a lot. Not that it *helps* anything, of course, just that it sheds some light on a few things. That said, knowledge is overrated. Bring on the happy golden years…if we live that long. 8) http://www.boodie.deviantart.com tatterdemalion Ahhh.. So THATS what is up with me.. I should have guessed, thanks Yahoo. http://mattyoung.livejournal.com Mattyoung In a cruel twist of fate, the unhappiness index map is shaped like a smile. http://ohophelia.diaryland.com alina I think knowing something’s coming makes us better able to deal with it. When you watch more carefully for signs of depression, you’re less likely to be surprised by them and succumb to the progression. So, now you know. And knowing is half the battle! Lynda Have you considered Vitamin D deficiency? I have it every winter. It is from not enough sun. You can buy a lite box. they sell them. OR go out at the sunniest part of the day, no sunscreen for 10 minuts with your face up to the sun. A lot of people get this…………… You have a lot of stress, a lot of things going on. Just chill a little more. I’m so glad you share this kind of stuff with us, some of us are afraid to talk about the real stuff. Kudos to you!!! http://mchat.comicgenesis.com Renae Wow. Well, then, what’s MY excuse?! I’m 32! Haha. Take good care of yourselves, I’m so sorry your vacation largely sucked balls. Glad you made it home safely! Mari I’m 37 and have felt like I’m going through some sort of existential crisis. When people are in their 20s and early 30s, there’s this feeling that anything is possible as the majority of your life lays in the future. So, if you’re unhappy in your job, for example, you think, hmm, maybe I’ll go back to school and get my degree in X, because I’ve always found that really fascinating. I think when we reach our 40s (or even late 30s), you start to realize that your options become fewer and fewer, and you’re left to examine what you have accomplished in your life so far. At least that is what I have experienced. So I think it’s really the way we think about our current situation and our past that creates the depression. I’m trying to work on how I perceive my life so far. That might be helpful for you too. You are a highly successful couple, you are married to a woman who adores you and vice versa, and you are a very involved father. Those are accomplishments to be proud of. southerngirl The good news is that your fifties are fabulous! http://www.justanotherjenn.com Jenn I read that article and I feel like I can really connect with it even though I am only 31. I have always been told that I act/appear older than my age, maybe that is a bad thing in this situation! Lisa my 53rd birthday is just days away…..there has to be some benefits for getting older. I keep thinking things should get looser and easier to use as you get older, but no says my body at 6 am when I am out running (in California…though we are inland…it’s in the 20’s some mornings, but I love it). Here’s a fun thought….just think…a hundred years ago, many of us would not be here at our age. We have to remember we are living longer than ever before. Therefore bringing on new and interesting medical and emotional challenges that our forefathers (and mothers) never had to deal with. So let’s just cut ourselves some slack and revel in the fact that as we get older, we are conquering new territory that has not been trampled on before. I can’t wait to see what 100 is like. Remember to get some sort of vigorous exercise at least every other day, eat lots of fruits and vegies, get plenty of sleep and keep the LAUGHS COMING!!!!!! WE ARE SCIENTIFIC MIRACLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ugh! http://www.flickr.com/photos/minxlj minxlj Hmm very depressing article indeed! You have so much to be thankful for though Jon, and you get to share it all with us on the ol’ interweb and make us feel good too. I hope that counts for something. Love to all of you xx John Yeah. I’m 44. I’ll report back after seeing my shrink tomorrow. I’m keeping in mind Heather’s position on meds. I’ve always resisted, but I dunno anymore. I like Lisa’s comment though — some exercise, good diet, and laughs do wonders. Also social status makes a difference, said another recent article to which I’m not going to link because I’m not feeling so ambitious. Sharon We saw the story about this on ABC News, and ironically my husband turns 44 on Feb. 22. The ABC piece said exactly what Mari said, that it’s coming to terms with the things we’re not going to accomplish in our lives. In the 20’s and maybe even early 30’s we still believe we might accomplish great things (cure cancer, win Noble Peace Prize, etc.) and then in our 40’s we realize what we need to settle for (decent job, some happiness with our family situation). The amazing thing to me is that this is a worldwide thing, according to the research – not just U.S. or Europe. I’m only 42, but I’m actually taking comfort in the fact that we’re not alone in these feelings, and in knowing that it will get better. I’m trying to focus on the fact that the curve will be going up from here. As a friend of mine said today in reference to this – it’s like passing thru the Winter Solstice, you know it’s going to get gradually lighter and warmer from here. I also agree with Lisa – excercise, good diet, and laughs. And Lynda’s right about Vitamin D, too. We live in Wisconsin, and I think every winter I get deficient. If it’s not cloudy and snowing, it’s just to darn cold on the sunny days to get outside and get any sun exposure. http://vorilee.typepad.com/ Deva As a twenty-something, this is really interesting for me to read, if only because it tells me what I have to look forward to. I wonder what, if anything, I can do to stave off middle-age depression? http://www.blessourhearts.blogspot.com Mary Moon Frankly, I thought my forties were fabulous and full of possibility. My fifties are not as friendly, though, and I am having a much harder time with them. But that’s me. http://writteninc.blogspot.com Carmi I’m sensing a huge amount of irony in this given Microsoft’s $44.6 billion acquisition “offer” for Yahoo. Both companies, hunter and hunted, are going through their own form of corporate mid-life crisis. So perhaps it’s just as well that Yahoo reported this when it did. Aside from the fortuitous timing, am I the only one to notice that this is yet another example of watered-down, it’s-so-damn-obvious, Dr. Phil-meets-Oprah “news” that we pretty much already could have figured out for ourselves? Ellen DeGeneres would be so proud. Perhaps she’ll discuss it on her next show when she isn’t busy dancing with the audience or giving away Roombas. Lori The fact that you’ve posted nothing since your reference to this article leads me to believe you’ve walked off a cliff somewhere. Say it isn’t so!