To all of you who have sent concern, good thoughts, well wishes and postive vibes I can’t thank you enough. We can’t thank you enough. I doubt I’ll be able to return all of the emails, so please don’t be offended if you don’t get a response.

Heather is doing well. After a sleepless night, she’s on a series of medications that seem to have calmed her down. Leta and I just got back from a wonderful lunch with Heather and things are looking more up than they have in a good while. Heather talked of taking a nap and that is probably the best thing she could have said to me. I’ve been so worried about her lack of sleep that anytime she lies down is a good sign.

I know that today is just a step, and no cure-all. Still, one must find the positive behind the anger, frustration and seeming futility. It has been so difficult to watch Heather suffer for so long. I’d list all the meds we’ve got in our medicine cabinet, but I don’t have the strength to type it all out. If we didn’t have insurance, we’d be screwed. She’s getting excellent help and they are looking into every possibility (blood work, thyroid, hormones, diet, et al).

On the me front, being with Leta has been wonderful. Her smile and cooing and squealing are a salve. She’s also apparently a fan of mushed refried beans, so that’s a good sign. I’m sure someone out there is going to chastise me for mentioning refried beans as the worse possible thing I could do for Leta. If that’s the case, I’d recommend that you wait awhile before clicking either the “Send” or “Post Comment” button.

I don’t know when I’ll update again, as I’ll be spending the next several days with Heather. I’m leaving comments open, in the hopes that if you were thinking of sending an email to either myself or Heather, you’ll consider leaving a note rather than sending the mail. I know it’s not as personal, but I guarantee she’ll read the comments before she’ll plow through her email. Besides, I think it’s good to share the love. More than anything else, experiencing this level of kindness has reaffirmed my faith in people to be nice and decent and good.

Thank you thank you thank you for your kindness.

  • ksea

    Hoping—no, absolutely yearning—for the powers that be to be able to find a way to keep Heather feeling better. Thinking of you all.

  • b

    how can we help?

    since i unfortunately can’t offer you a job, are there other ways to help?

  • Cindy`

    your family is in my prayers-

  • Gretchen C.

    Jon, I am so glad you posted — I checked your site several times today in hopes of an update. It’s amazing how concerned you can be about people you only know through their blogs. One of the things I love about you two is your candor. I’m relieved to know Heather is feeling a bit better.

    About Leta and the refried beans: Feed away. Kids love them. My older boy was eating them at Leta’s age. Warning, however: The gas aftermath can be daunting, plus they produce some really really scary diapers.

  • Lorie

    Jon, like so many others I found blurbomat through Heather’s site, and I’m very glad I did. I’ve been checking back anxiously for word of how you are all doing, and I’m glad that things look hopeful. I’m sure I’ll only be one of the first in a long, long line of people wishing you well.

    I have been through something like what she is going through now, and I’m in awe of the courage, positivity, and candor you’ve both expressed during what surely must be one of the most difficult times you’ve experienced. I’m glad you guys are in an area (and a position) where you can get good health care and I hope that you’re able to find a good solution very soon.

    You’re an inspiration to us all, and we’re all thinking about you. Hang in there!

  • Jen

    Thanks so much for the update. I hope that things continue to get better for you all and I’m glad that Heather is getting some much needed sleep. Best to you all.

  • marsha

    Nothing helpful, just a lot support and love from nyc.

  • Heather K.

    My best wishes to you, Heather, Leta, and Chuck. Your sites always brighten my day and I wish nothing but the best for your beautiful family.

  • connie

    Hang in there, man.

    Dooce is a brave soul-and she is very blessed to have you and your support.

    You WILL get thru this.

  • Erica

    I have been reading Heather’s site and yours for quite some time. I admire you all being so open on this subject as it has helped me with my issues as well as others. You three (+ Chuck!) take care. All will be well one day!

  • Beverly

    I’ve been thinking of the three of you a lot since I read your posts yesterday. I’m so glad that Heather decided to go in for treatment and that things looked a bit better today.

    I had similar post-partum anxiety after my son was born two years ago. It wasn’t one-tenth as bad and lasted “only” two or three months, but it almost did me in, seriously. It’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. Heather is an amazingly strong person to have kept going this long and stronger still for doing what she needs to do to feel better. And I know she’ll feel better.

    Also, having been there myself, I can say how incredibly lucky Heather and Leta are to have you. Without my truly wonderful husband I don’t think I’d have made it through. I know you feel helpless a lot of the time, but believe Heather when she says that you *do* help her. She understands much better than you do how much having you has helped keep her going this long.

    Thank you for the update. I’ll be thinking of all of you.

  • Fish

    Your two sites make people laugh, spit & scream. Now your perfect humanity touches us, too. Best wishes and hope all is well soon.

  • Vicky

    Thinking of you all xx

  • mizanne

    Know that you receive love and support from people who only know you through reading your blogs.

    Best wishes for a speedy recovery for dooce. Things will undoubtedly improve. You’re both incredibly strong and wonderful people, based on what I’ve read in your blogs.

    Keep focusing on the positive as often as is possible. Good luck!

  • ‘nother jen

    Your update is helping andrew and I sleep better too. Thank you thank you thank you.

  • Jaia

    I don’t have anything to say that hasn’t already been said… just that you and Heather are in my thoughts & prayers and I wish the best for both of you. We internet folks might go through a little withdrawal, but seriously, take all the time you guys need to beat this. Sometimes the most courageous thing to do is face your problems head-on, and you both get major thumbs-up for being so very proactive about this.

    Also, as a psych student at the University of Utah, I feel that I should mention that our mental health facilities here ROCK.

    You guys are amazing people. Take care.

  • Neil

    I hope, hope, hope that this does the trick and you can all live happily ever after – or at least a reasonable approximation thereof.

    You guys are far too cool for anything else…

  • lizpenn

    big love going out to the blurb, the dooce, the frog and the congressman. i don’t know if it helps to have thousands of total strangers hanging on your every word, but for what it is worth, here we are.

    some writer-type friends and i were talking yesterday about how impressed we were that, during the months heather described being so freaked out she could barely function, she also managed to post so frequently and charmingly to her website — a lot more so than some of us who are not depressed (or parents for that matter.) i’m hoping that was therapeutic for her, and didn’t just add to the stress of that time. damn you, dooce, for writing so well that your struggles are now as real to us as our own. be well and hurry home.

  • Coelecanth

    The courage you and Heather have, not only in the resolve you show in fighting this disease, but in fighting it so publicly, leaves me in awe.

    Thank you.

  • Chris


    My best wishes to you both as you get through this. From as much as someone can come to know you both, only through your writings, I can tell that you both are amazing people and you are amazing for each other. Leta is fortunate to have been born into such a loving home.

    Keep your heads up and remember that you have many friends out here, many of whom you don’t even know, who wish you only the best.

  • girl

    you guys are in my thoughts. i hope the best for you all.

  • lavonne

    I’m so relieved that things are looking up. I too can’t believe how much I’ve come to care about your little family. Sending all the positive vibes I’ve got…

  • shaunacat

    I’m one of many to repeat that I am a long time reader of both your site and Heather’s. I think it is amazing how open you both have been about your situation. What you are doing has the possibility to help so many others that may be in the same boat. That is to be commended!!

    Sincerest hopes for a speedy return of a happy and well rested Heather.

  • Colleen has brightened my day on so many occasions, and I feel as though I know all of you. I recently discovered Blurbomat through Heather’s site, and I’m so glad I did. You are amazing people, and I am inspired by both of you. I have no doubt that Heather’s strength as an individual, combined with your strength as a family will get her through this. I have never posted a comment on either of your sites, but I felt compelled to let you know that there are countless people out here in Internet-land who are sending all of our good thoughts and positive energy your way. Thank you so much for taking the time to update all of us during what I know is a stressful and chaotic period in all of your lives. Tell Heather we miss her and we’re all thinking of her.

  • Jennifer

    Best wishes in this time of need. There are indeed decent people out here who care, it’s too bad it’s the assholes that always seem to type first 😉

  • amandarin

    I’m glad to read than things are going well and I’m sending positiive vibes that they’ll only continue to improve.

    As a long time reader of both your site and your wife’s, this seems a good time to make my first comment. My thoughts are with you and your family!

  • spike

    hey jon and heather,

    you guys are the greatest. and what heather is doing is great and i think it shows how strong she is and how much of a great couple you guys make.

  • Julie

    Heather + Jon,
    The culture of blogs is a strange thing, I find. We don’t know each other and yet I have been so moved by your truthfulness and your bravery and your unbelievably brilliant words that I find myself wondering how you are doing throughout my day.
    I wish you rest and comfort.

    Wild Geese

    You do not have to be good.
    You do not have to walk on your knees
    for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
    You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.
    Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
    Meanwhile the world goes on.
    Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
    are moving across the landscapes,
    over the prairies and deep trees,
    the mountains and the rivers.
    Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air
    are heading home again.
    Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
    the world offers itself to your imagination,
    calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting–
    over and over announcing your place
    in the family of things.

    Dream Work

  • Kari

    Thank you for the update. I appreciate it so much, I know others who are worried are probably also very relieved to hear from you.

    Best wishes to all of you out there in Utah.

  • Kim

    Jon & Heather- Hang in there. I wish I could fly to Utah and give you both hugs. I want to say everything will be alright and hope with all my heart that it will be. Thank you so much for opening your lives to us– much love.

  • Sarah

    I’ve been reading Dooce’s site for a long time and only recently found yours. But you both have been in my thoughts as Dooce has struggled with her illness, and I’m wishing only happy things will come your way from now on. I know from a good friend’s experience what a hard time this is, but with love and patience and perseverance and a good set of doctors, you can make it through. Good luck to both of you, and all the best in the future. I am in awe of your courage.

  • Karan

    Hang the naysayers and full speed toward a happy sleep infested recovery!

  • Angie

    Heather is so brave for making the decision that she did. She’s very lucky to have you to support her.

    I come from a family riddled with mental illness and thought I had made it through 28 years virtually unscathed…until I became a mother. My son is now 10 months old and I can safely say that I’m better now.

    Everything is going to be ok. You’ll all make it through this.

  • Jamie

    I’ve been reading about both of your lives for nearly 9 months now. You two gave me insight into what my pregnancy was to hold (we gave birth 5/17) I just wanted to tell you both that you are in my prayers.

  • Alison

    I am glad you posted and I just want to send all sorts of good vibes and energy to all of you.

  • KellyH

    Thank you for the update. You guys are an incredible couple, especially to share such a personal struggle. I’m thinking of you, Heather and Leta and sending much, much love.

  • Shannon

    I found during a sad time in my life. Things are looking up for me now, but words cannot describe how much Heather’s writing lifted me up through some dark times.

    I’m sending some positive vibes for you all from the South! Thank you so much for the update, Jon…you guys have certainly been in my thoughts. Take care.

  • munin

    keeping you all in our thoughs, and sending as much goodness, positive vibes and hugs [if them be needing] that we can muster.

  • carmen

    go dooce!
    bring home the gold!
    (bronze is great, however)

  • Ellen

    my thoughts and good vibes are with you! here is to many sleep filled nights and sweet dreams. I wish you all the best!

  • sunnie

    thinking of you both. kudos for being so open and honest….you’ve inspired and helped many. i nearly burst into tears reading heather’s latest post (can’t remember how i found the site, but i’ve been reading for a while) and, well, sending all my hopes and prayers that this all is a smooth process. you’re a strong man, jon, and a wonderful husband………it’s easy to figure that out just from reading your posts.

  • Cece

    (sigh of relief)
    I don’t know why I thought you would update us (us, as in…all of us web-snoops) but thank God I double-checked here to be sure because I felt really sorrowful about My Favorite Dooce. Thanks for thinking about us at a time when you have every right to think only of yourself and your family. That is remarkable. You must understand that we care. I’m glad that shows. and xoxo’s for the beautiful Gangstah Chef!

    p.s. We all have our trials AND our treasures. You’re a lucky man, Jon-without-the-H.

  • Stacey Kirkland

    Now, Mr. Armstrong, if you can just get Heather to eat your refried beans, you four will be back in business in no time…

    Thank you both so very much for taking the time to share your love for your family. You guys just amaze me…

  • Stephanie

    My thoughts are with the three of you. It’s a tough thing to go through, but I am so glad that Heather has decided to do what is best for her, and in the long run, best for everyone. Bless you all.

  • Ariel

    Just wanted to express my support to the entire Hamilton/Amstrong Clan Of Three … I so dearly appreciate you giving us this window into your life. It gives your and Heather’s many thousands of readers the opportunity to really get to know the two of you as three-dimensional people dealing with three-dimensional challenges. I know the two of you have a lot of support “in real life,” but I just wanted to chime in one more voice of support here from the ether … much love to all three of you!

  • Kate

    I heartily support and agree with all the love and well-wishes being sent your way. I’ve been reading both of you since just before Leta was born, and I’ve been emailing the Dooce words of encouragement from time to time. As a psychiatrist-in-training, I’ve seen what this is like for women, for their families, and I am so glad that Heather is getting the help that she needs. And she is so blessed to have such a wonderful husband. Vermont (yes, all of it, I’m passing a law) sends its love to all four of you.

    (and PS–I called my husband last night to tell him, and it really was like I was telling him about friends of ours. How strange this blogworld is, and how wonderful that both of you are able to give so much to us.)

  • GK

    Heather, Jon & Leta — please know you are in my thoughts.

  • Wen

    Dear Jon and Heather,

    I’m pretty new here, but I would also like to add that your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

    Your courage and strength in these exhausting and trying circumstances is amazing. That you choose to share these private moments shows a generosity of spirit and being is awe inspiring.

    My heart and support goes out to the four of you. I hope that this detour is brief so that you may return to each other stronger and more joyful.

  • Jane

    Glad that things are going okay so far. Psych wards can be scary places (apparently most hospitals can’t afford to separate out the truly psychotic from the depressed/eating disorder people) but hopefully this will be a safe place for Heather to try out new meds and get some rest away from little Leta.

    Just don’t forget that being a mom (or stay-at-home dad) can be utterly exhausting and frustrating and depressing for anyone–it’s hard to imagine how difficult this must be for someone who already has/had depression. Best wishes for your whole family, including the chuckster.

  • kimmy

    roses are red
    violets are blue
    refried beans
    are good for you

    lots of positive thoughts, hope there’s not too much gas.

  • ~Angel

    Dear Heather & Jon,
    It’s funny how words can fail you when you’re writing to people you’ve never met, yet feel that you know so well. Please take care of yourselves, it really is going to be all right in the end.

  • stacey

    i’m stuck. how to get my hopes and wishes from my heart to my typing fingers. love and hugs to you. i can’t get you guys out of my head today.

  • C

    Best of luck to all three of you!

  • reenie

    I’m hoping every new comment lifts you both up a little more. You are remarkable people, and even better spouses and parents. I missed my baby terribly after even one night in the hospital…so I know it will be hard. But I also know how wonderful it is to see my baby after a wonderful, restful night. Please God, give Heather some rest.

  • Karen

    I canít imagine how hard this must be for everyone involved. Iím sure you both want to blame yourselves in some way, but you know you canít. Itís no ones fault ñ sometimes crap just happens. You both need each other so much right now so try to set aside all feelings of guilt.

    I hope and pray that they find the root of the problem and are able to help Heather. She deserves to be happy and alert and ready to enjoy all the wonderful firsts of Letaís life.

    My prayers are with you both right now ñ I hope this passes quickly and leaves you and your family even stronger than it found you.

  • Dana

    what **great** news to hear – I hope it continues to go well!

    I know the hospital was a tough choice but really you will make more progress faster than if you had continued to struggle on an out patient basis.

    umm refried beans are FINE, definetely. Gosh now I want mexican for dinner!

    hugs all around.

  • Jessica

    Thanks so much for the update. Heather is such a courageous woman, in every sense of the word – and you don’t do too badly, either. :) Glad to hear things are looking up. I’m one of the many who sent an e-mail, and I never expected a reply – you both have other things to think of. Sending Heather, you & Leta lots of love, positive vibes, and good thoughts.

    And a baby who likes refried beans is goin’ places! Go Leta!

  • Janis


    Refried beans? For a baby? Man are you nuts! 😉 My babies love them too! (11.5 mo old twins) They’ve been eating them since they were about 5 mo old. The only problem with it is the bottom end blow outs that come the next day. I hope you have LOTS of wipies and diapers! LOL

    As for Heather, my thoughts and prayers are with you. This stuff is never easy… I’m hoping she gets the answers and help she needs and is home soon with you and little miss Leta.

    Be gentle with yourselves.

  • another erica

    i’m sending more love, hugs, and well-wishes to all four of you.

  • Jon Hicks

    What can I say? Our thoughts are with you. Hang on to every positive sign you can find – they will take you from the dark place.

  • becky

    jon, i can only add my relief that you posted an update. i truly hope that they figure out what will help heather. i hope you get some rest and strength, too. i don’t know what to say except i’ll be praying for your family and sending as many positive, happy thoughts your way as i can. i only wish i could help in some way.

  • Terri

    Much love and prayers.

  • moose

    Jon, thank you for taking the time to update. I’m amazed and grateful you did that.

    I’ve been reading the blurbodoocious blogs for ages, but yesterday’s posts took my breath away. Y’all got my respect.

    And my wishes for deep love, peace and joy — SOON — for the very fine Blurb, beloved Heather, terminally cute Froglegs (beans are good in small measures), and his Honor the Congressman.

    You are cradled in the hearts of many.

  • Kim

    I’m so pleased Heather is getting some help. Man oh man am I right there with “better living through chemistry.” Sometimes it just takes chemistry and I’m all for it being the legal kind instead of self-prescribed! Leta is one luckly little girl. Thankyou your sharing and for updating. I can’t believe how much I’ve gotten ‘involved’ in the life of someone I know nothing about.

    Can I suggest a book for both of you? Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott. The writing, I believe, you will both enjoy (it is similar in comedic tint to Heather’s) and the message is incredible (a single mom and recovering alcoholic journaling the first year of her son’s life as the sole-provider and almost sole-caregiver to this tiny screaming body).

    Best wishes

  • http://n/a Siobhan

    Jon and Heather, your family is in my thoughts. I hope you will all be reunited soon.

    I’m expecting a baby in 7 weeks (AAAHHHHHH!) and it’s refreshing to read about the lives of two people who are candid and truthful. What I mean is you seem to say, “Yes, a baby is great and wonderful and life changing, but it’s also incredibly hard and can be daunting.”

    I think you are both amazing people and parents, and I hope Heather feels better soon.

  • byronicwoman

    as one who has recently made a visit to a psych facility… i can say that you two have made the best choice. not the easy choice, but the best choice. my heart goes out to all three of you and my prayers as well, for what they’re worth.

  • anna

    I’m trying my darnedest to send you strength, peace, and unlimited refried beans through my dial-up. It’s slow going, but I think it’ll work.

    If that stuff doesn’t get there, have some love. Lots of it, sent express from Rhode Island to Utah. That always works. Take care, you guys. You are loved, big time.

  • Jim Renaud

    I am definitely praying for your family. Thank you for being so transparent with your emotions and experiences. It really does help the rest of us who aren’t as brave, but go through similar situations.

    Mad love to the Armstrongs!

  • noneofyerbizness

    Please forgive my crassness for asking for “dirt” on the ex-wife. I had no idea life was treating you so crappy and I was really just being a smartass.

    Really. My thoughts are with you guys and I’m praying things look up. You both have shown an incredible amount of courage and you deserve something good to come of it.

    Beans are a very healthy food. Refried or otherwise.

  • juli

    This godless infidel in Kansas is praying to her higher power, chanting to Buddha, burning candles and just generally thinking positive thoughts for the three of you.

    And how could I possibly castigate you for mixing refried beans and babies. It could not possibly be any worse than my dog’s introduction to refrieds, could it?

  • michael

    Best wishes to all of you… there’s a lot of people pulling for you. Heather’s brought so much laughter and tears and OMG WTF to us that it’s like an old friend is hurting.

    I’m holding the vision that Heather will soon be home and healthy and happy and ready for more drunken underpants remodeling.

  • Lori

    You two are the most honest people on the internet…so much so, that sometimes I feel like I know you. Maybe that’s why tears welled up in my eyes when I read both of your posts. All I can say is that I wish the three of you well.

  • Sarah

    Great to hear that Heather is getting some much-needed rest; it’s wonderful that you can spend time with her while she’s in the hospital. It is so very good that the docs are looking at her thyroid – psychiatrists and endocrinologists are just starting to get their arms around the extremely tricky interplay (in women) of moods/anxiety/depression/etc. and hormones.

    I’ve been there and I hope hope hope the medication merry-go-round ends and Heather finds some relief in the right combination of treatments. I know it can be so very hard, but I know you guys can get through it.

    Thinking of you all. Take good care.

  • -A

    I’m so glad you updated… I’m sending lots lof love & support to your family. Heather – feel better soon girl!!

  • Beth

    Just lots of love to you, Leta, and Heather.

  • http://na Tiffany

    I join the ranks of those who “know” you only through the blogs…
    But your family has captured a place in my heart and my prayers are with all of you right now.
    I really admire your raw honesty. Best wishes and love to all of you.

  • delusive

    I am so glad things are going okay so far. You, Heather, and Leta are definitely in my thoughts and prayers… hope everything continues to get better.

  • Liz

    As someone who has battled with depression myself, I have the utmost respect for Heather for being able to talk about it when there are so many people who deny it even exists. Since I read “Heather Interrupted” yesterday, I have been thinking positive warm thoughts for you and your wife, as well as Leta and even little Chuck.

    I want to thank you both for keeping us updated – you guys really are like a second familiy for me! I’m wishing for a quick and happy improvement for Heather… please let her know that we’re all thinking of her and fighting for her!

  • Leah

    Best wishes — I hope all continues to go well for your wonderful family!

  • Tanya

    Thinking of you and yours.
    I also want to thank you for sharing a super personal thing in your lives.
    I, myself, have just been a rough time this last week and the first thing that’s made me laugh all week was when I came across Heather’s photos of Chuck dressed as a devil dog. I was laughing so hard I cried a little.
    I have also just discovered the wonderful world of blogging this last week thanks to Heather’s blog. Let her know that she is helping strangers laugh and smile.

  • http://none jill in nc

    thanks for taking the time to update a world of strangers…wish we could all bring you dinner, or watch Leta for you or feed Chuck. I guess we’ll just have to wish for easier times for you all.

  • HG

    Oh reading this made my day. My thoughts are with you three and I hope today was the first positive step to a fantastic end to this nightmare.

  • Nicole

    Thank you so much for the update. You, Heather and Leta bring great big smiles to my face daily. I am so glad that she is doing ok. All of you are in my thoughts , good luck, Go BEANS! They are great for her, let her enjoy.

  • Susan

    It’s all been said, but I wanted to let you know that you’re all doing the right thing. And that everything’s gonna be okay. Have faith. We’re all praying for your family.
    Also, we’re willing to babysit beautiful Leta anytime.
    : )

  • http://A P

    love you dooce – you’re so awesome

  • sweetney

    positive energy, love and strength to you both. i am one of many thinking of you three and earnestly hoping for your health and happiness. i’ll echo ‘jill in nc’: thanks for letting all of us interweb strangers (who nonetheless care deeply about you guys) know how things are going.

  • Beck

    Add another concerned reader to the list. Sending you all the best wishes from the north. You all deserve the best. Take care, relax, and heal!!

  • kasey

    you’re in my thoughts.

  • Alice

    Oh, what good news. You guys have been in my thoughts a lot these days. Please pass the NYC love on to Heather and Leta. (And I’m not talking about the Convention kind of love–I don’t think anyone wants that.)

  • Fiona

    De-lurking to say I’m a huge fan/supporter of you and Heather. All my best wishes to you both through your times of trouble, and all my best wishes and good thoughts are with you.

    With warmest regards,

  • Jeannen

    The three of you are in my thoughts. I’ve been reading since she was out here in LA. She’s been a huge inspiration to me throughout her pregnancy, as I found out I was pregnant just about at her 3-4 month pregnant mark. Her humor and honestly kept my spirits up during my pregnancy. I hope that Heather gets my well wishes/good vibes and that everything works out for your family.

  • introverted

    I think exeriencing this with you three has been the most profound Internet experience I’ve ever had. Thank you for sharing it with us. I wish I/we could be more help to you, Heather, Leta. The next best thing is my prayers that you three will be happy & healthy and together again real soon. But after Heather gets the good long rest her body needs and the doctors do their stuff to figure out why this is going on. Please say Hi to Heather for me, we already miss her. I wish I could give hugs to you both, a smoochie to Leta, and a pat to Chuck. cpr

  • batty

    I emailed yesterday, no matter, here’s some more happy thoughts


  • Anna

    My best friend spent some time in a psych ward last Christmas. I know “psych ward” has a horrid ring to it, but it was the best thing that could have happened to her. I pray that Heather will find it healing as well.

    Hugs and love to the gangstah chef – that picture made me laugh out loud, and my life has been rather short on laughter lately. Best of luck as y’all continue doing the best you can. It WILL be okay.

  • thelioness

    As one who has gone through severe ppd and been on medication for it as well, I am SO hopeful and optimistic for a happy ending to this story. I lived to tell the tale and can say with outright honesty, that with the right help, it’s possible to overcome ppd. I am so much happier than I’ve been for such a long time. The one good thing about ppd is that I am able to appreciate what I’ve got now. I know that with Dooce’s humor and strength, and with the love and support you give her, she’ll get through it, too.

    Much love to you all!

  • Tabitha

    Heather and Jon –

    Bless you for your strength. Bless you for your courage. Few of us can muster the courage to even tell our closest of friends and family about those things we fear the most.

    Through your willngness to share with those who read about you daily and feel you are part of our own families, you will change lives. The most important right now is yours and I have thought of you all daily and wished you strength through it all.

    Heather, you will see it through. I am so proud of you and your family for all they are doing.

  • Bill Dugan

    Jon, good luck to you and your womenfolk. She did the best thing she possibly could have, and will come out on the other side a better person. All the best.

  • Tamara

    Though I don’t really know either of you, I’ve become attached to Heather’s irreverently funny, vivid, and touching writing. Now that she’s introduced us to your site, I look forward to seeing what the other half is like.

    Having struggled with (and surrendered to) depression, it is a hard mistress. That Heather can keep writing as openly and honestly as she has been is a wonder to me. I look forward to her return when she is feeling better.

    In spite of such a scary experience, I think that people who love each other as much as you seem to will make it through some how. With such a love story, how could you not!

    Best wishes.

  • diana

    I feel like any supportive words I could say have already been said in the 93 comments before mine, as well as the e-mails, but I’ll add one more to the throng.

    No, really. Anything I can think of to say sounds really trite, especially considering that I don’t really know either of you in real life. If I did, though… if you lived in Toledo (heaven help you)… I’d say it’s a good thing that Heather decided to go and get help when she did. I’d also say that she should know that she has oodles of friends and acquaintances who are sending good vibes her way, in whatever paraphysical form they prefer (prayers, karmic vibes, chi, incantations, what-have-you). And to you and Leta and Chuck, too.

    Hang in there, all of you. Everything will be cool. And Heather will remain her charming, cynical selfójust without the excess baggage.

  • mari

    I’ve enjoyed reading both of your sites for some time now. I’m sorry to hear about the difficult time your family is experiencing, but I’m glad that Heather is getting the help she needs.

    I hope Heather gets feeling better soon. Hang in there and take care.

  • Anna #3

    See? Not a single nasty post so far! Nearly 100 people love you guys enough to send there wishes. Here’s best wishes from person #98.

  • Sarah

    Lots of love to the four of you. I hope you can all get some decent rest in the near future.

  • lavonne

    speaking of beans, and somewhat off-topic: if you’re looking for an endearment for leta that beats “princess” hands down, i strongly recommend “bean”. just a thought.

  • trudie

    just a quick note to let you know i’m thinking about you all–i feel like i’m a part of this with you, even though i only know you guys through your blogs. thank you SOOOO much for keeping us all updated. in line with lavonne’s suggestion–my father in law is obsessed with ‘frijoles negros’ and frijoles makes a great nickname, too! has leta discovered sour cream? watch out, she’ll have to have it on everything if she does! hang in there, guys. and don’t let the naysayers get you down, there are hundreds of us supporters out here to hold you up and poke the others with those hot forks of displeasure heather mentioned a while back!!! much love to you all…

  • Workman

    Julie and I are praying for your recovery. The news that Heather is doing well is welcome.

  • Samantha

    Look at what you have done. Look at what you created. Look at all of the people you touched so strongly…that they couldn’t help but send you some prayers and love.

    You guys have done a rare thing….
    You’ve created a web culture of people who have never been in the same room as you…who also feel your pain…laugh at your joy….giggle at your mishaps….

    I too, am one of the people who have read your sites FOREVER and finally posted. And while you don’t know me and my life…i’ve known you since “way back when”.

    Thank you for what you’ve done. Take care of each other….get better soon. I’ll be here when you guys get back. I think we all will.

  • gail

    My thoughts are with your family.

    You didn’t give Chuck any refried beans did you?

  • rabi

    as the daughter of a psych-ward-mama, I am very very glad to hear that things are looking up. leta’s a lucky baby. best of luck.

  • Mary

    Best wishes to you and your family. I hope Heather finds some peace soon….

  • jules

    All my thoughts and prayers are with you the three of you (and chuck).
    i wish you nothing but sunshine…

  • http://Canada Canada

    Our thoughts are with you both during this time. I applaud your honesty and cadidness during this time. It is not easy to endure for Heather, nor for yourself. We wish you success on this journey

  • Katherine

    I really hope things will continue to look up for the two of you. Heather’s frank discussion of dealing with depression and anxiety has helped me deal with my own depression and anxiety.

    I’ve been reading for three years now, and I hope Heather gets better soon, because I’m going through Dooce-inspired withdrawal myself! :-)

    Anyway, take care of yourselves–both of you and Leta and Chuck. I can’t wait until you come back.

  • http://n/a Jonna


    More good thoughts on the way. I hope that you are all able to hang in there – it *will* be okay, I know it will. Sending more warm mushy cozy happy vibes that approximate the warmth and healing of Chuck cuddling up in all of your armpits at once.

    You’re both very brave. Leta & Chuck are lucky kids. *mwah*

  • erica

    i’ve been reading dooce since about early 2002 – and i’ve learned so much from her words (and yours too, jon). reading her posts about leta has made me actually look forward to someday having a child, despite all of the rough things that go along with it. you are both amazing people. with a beautiful daughter and a super cute dog.

    best of luck to all of you — although with each other i think you can get through anything. :)

  • Anne A.

    Wow. If there was something else I could say to add to all of this love, I sure wish I could think of it! You and Heather are so strong, I’m proud to be a reader of both of your sites. You, Heather and Leta are in my thoughts muchly! Please take good care of yourself and your beautiful wife and wee girl. xoxo

  • Rebecca

    Of course refried beans are fine — what the hell do babies in Mexico eat? My neice eats all kinds of foods that you aren’t supposed to give to kids (spicy, etc) and she’s fine. The beans are full of protein, and you are a good daddy.

    Thinking of your family and sending you all the love and support in my heart. Hang in there. Things will get better.

  • Kath

    Thanks much for the update, Jon. Thought of your joint posts all day yesterday.

    You, Heather, Leta and Chuck are in my thoughts and prayers… sending waves of good karma from So FL.

    I don’t know you guys, but I love you.


  • Abigail

    You guys are an awesome family. I hope my little family is as awesome, literally, as yours is.

  • Carny Asada

    Lots of beams for you guys. Worried about you, hope all resolves well soon. Cyberhugs for Leta and the dog.

  • Gracie Li

    So, in a way I’m glad I’m not the only perfect stranger who is so completely in love with the Hamilton/Armstrong family, but man, I wish there had been a better way to find that out. What a tough situation, but I think you are both handling all of this with an amazing amount of courage and grace.

    So while neither of you may ever read this, Heather and John I’m thinking about you a lot. I hope you know that there are hundreds, if not thousands of us out here, rooting for you. I don’t know that it will make it any easier to get through, but I do know that we all believe that if anyone can, its you two.

    Hugs for John and Heather, cheesy treats for Chuck, and more beans for Leta.

  • Torrie

    With this much love how can you not prevail???

  • victoria

    i have been a long time reader of dooce and have recently begun reading blurbomat as well. i too have become addicted. your honesty is refreshing. i love the fact that neither of you hold anything back, and are so willing to share such an immense amount of yourselves with all of us. I too have become so engaged, so captivated by your family that i worry about you all. i know that neither of you are particularly religious, but your family is in my prayers (hey it couldn’t hurt, right). i hope and pray that heather will be able to find the right combination of medicine and peace of mind to ease her struggles, and that you continue to draw strength from your beautiful leta.

  • AJ and Amanda

    Jon, thanks for keeping us updated. We care, and we’ve got nothing but good thoughts for you, Heather, Leta and Chuck.

  • lorin

    holding you all in bright white healing light.

    beans do a body good!

  • Maria

    Good luck all.

  • myla

    Just a quick e-note to let you know that I too will keep Heather (and you and Leta) in my prayers.

  • Melissa

    I miss her already.

    I’m so glad she’s there and I hope her stay does the trick. Sleep covers a multitude of sins.

    Enjoy your time with Leta, it sounds like you are.

    Much love coming from Detroit. But, you know, not the kind of love that sneaks up behind you and tries to steal your wallet. Heh!

  • Maja

    Hi Jon and Heather and Leta,

    My husband and I are regular readers of your two blogs, so we were rather concerned about Heather’s health. Sleep deprivation and paralyzing anxiety can be so detrimental to one’s physical health, sowe hope that this much-needed hospital stay is the start of better things to come. As a health care practioner, I know that there are many therapies from which to chose, but it’s figuring out the appropriate drug(s) and their dose(s), along with complementary therapies (psychotherapy, etc) etc. that is the real challenge …Best wishes from Vancouver, Canada.

  • kp

    i, too, have been waiting to hear how everything is going. i am amazed at heather’s strength as well as yours. i do not envy these tough times, but i do envy the love and strength you two have, that never seems to waiver.
    it gives me hope.
    i have faith in little, but i do have faith that you two will make it through this.

  • Carrie

    Thanks so much for the update. You guys mean so much to so many, and we are all sending well wishes and prayers. I know you will get through this.

    Hang in there!

  • Autumn

    Hi! New fan here!

    Just wanted to say that I hope that Heather is doing better and that you and Leta are doing well.

    Please keep us posted. I love reading both of your sites on a daily basis and was saddened to read that Heather wasn’t feeling so well these days.

    Sending all my good vibes from Vancouver, BC!


  • Amber

    I am glad to hear that Heather is sounding better. At least there is a glimmer of hope. I know how having a close family member admitted into a psychiatric ward feels. It is difficult to have them be gone, and also a little scary. I hope that they do as well for Heather as they did for my family member.

    I know that you two are not the religious type, but I have been praying for you guys. You have a beautiful family. Your daughter Leta is so sweet and cute. I love seeing pictures of her.

    I bet that Heather loves looking at her, too.

    Anyway, I wish the best for you four. At least you guys know that lots and lots of people care about you.

    Love in Christ,
    Amber <><

  • Susan P

    I did send you an email yesterday, just because I wanted to try and share some hope and something positive, not because I was expecting a reply. Your whole family is in my prayers. Good luck.

  • Beth S.

    You’re all going to come through this with flying colors. You will. You will.

    (If the entire internet says it’s so, then it’s so. :-)

  • vix

    been checking back to see what’s what and was so upset to see heather’s post from yesterday — but so grateful all the same that she is taking the initiative to make herself well again. and my thoughts and prayers are with all three of you that you get through this hurdle and come across the finish line with huge smiles. it’s waiting for you… will just take a little bit of time to get there, that’s all…

  • bran.

    add me to the list of strangers who love and are rooting for you guys. good luck, kids. you are adorable, hilarious, loving people, and you’ll all be okay.


  • Karry

    I cried when I read Heathers post because I so know where she is coming from. Now that the hardest decision has been made and ACTED upon (that’s so hard to do) she should find some peace. Consider hiring a “mommy’s helper” when she comes home. It’s a teenager that kind of “babysits” while you are home so you can relax and get things done. They help clean and entertain the kiddos. I have so much more I want to say but I will keep it short – you are in my prayers nightly (my mother would swoon – I’m praying for a mormon family and it doesn’t involve salvation… LOL) Take care – and beans are good for the digestive track – but be prepared for some doozies of a diaper change.

    I love you man!

  • lorin

    i must come back and add that as someone who has helped her mother through a years long battle with bipolar disorder, that you both are so brave and strong.

    that heather is willing to face something so scary, and better yet, ask for help, is an excellent sign that she will succeed.

    again, surrounding your family with healing.

  • samantha

    thank you so much, jon, for giving us an update. I know I’ve been checking back periodically. There’s so much love and good thoughts going out to your family right now. Heather was one of the first things I thought about when I woke up this morning, and I just sent up prayers for her wellbeing and sleep! lots of sleep! Much love to you guys.

  • Jeff

    My best wishes to all three of you. This will be an extremely trying time, no doubt, but at least you can both see the light at the end of the tunnel. Things will get better. :)

  • http://Blankorama Snythia

    Like Fiona…I’m de-lurking. Here’s why: My Mom has been calling me from Michigan (I live on the East Coast)–and I have been calling her (specifically!!) so that we can to put our heads together and G-dammit, figure out what’s best for Heather/Jon/Leta & Chuck. We think, we discuss, we empathize. World peace be damned for the moment. (Not really, but you know what I mean).

    By the way, we are in the “Feed the Baby Beans Club and give the Dog an Occasional shot of Baileys Club” though you can try and buy Emmets–it’s the same stuff only cheaper.

    Heather: If you need to ride a Harley naked through the desert while trying out whatever medication they can offer you…Great! Have at it my girl.

    And when you start feeling better, please know that decent, Bailey’s chugging, Baby Bean Eatin’, Book Readin’ people throughout the land thank you and Jon for your writing. Many thoughts sent your way.

    P.S. Baby Ruby Lee (I’m her non-blood Auntie) at 7 mos. is currently chowing on guacamole with a touch of Pedro’s salsa thrown in for good measure. Leta might like it with some beans!

    Good luck Y’all. Hopefully the collective good will vibe can provide some support.


  • Marie

    Sending all three of you lots of love and thoughts from Seattle. Heather has been on my mind and I wish her all the best. Thank God she has a good man beside her.

    The honesty and humor the two of you bring to the blogosphere is greatly appreciated. I’m sure Leta will be blogging in no time….

  • Suze

    I’m so glad that you put up an update and things are going better. You guys are in my thoughts & prayers. It’s gonna get better!

  • eb

    people in new york are thinking about your family, too.

  • Robin

    Post-partum anxiety is a bitch. My daughter’s Leta’s age, and I’ve also struggled. Heather, you’re a brave girl. It takes guts to get help. Jon, you’re a saint for standing by her. Thinking of you and hoping this is a new beginning.

  • Jenizie

    Holding all three of you in the light.

  • lauren

    All three of you are in my thoughts.

    – Lauren

  • Sarah

    Lots of love to you and your family–

    Don’t worry about the beans, just be sure to eat plenty yourself so you guys aren’t too bothered by each other’s smell. The family that toots together stays together!

  • Tracy

    Heather, you are brave and smart and so, so making the right decision for you and your family. Here’s to you feeling much better very soon, and finding rest and peace and joy again.

    Jon, all men should aspire to be the kind of husband and dad that you are. You rock the fuckin’ Casbah, man. Don’t forget to do good things for yourself when you can, too – you deserve it.

    Best wishes and lots of love to the both of you, as well as your scrumptious little frijolita (Frijo-Leta?).

  • Kimberly

    Can we all play “Guess Heather’s Diagnosis”? Will there be a prize for the lucky winner?

    That’s not meant as an insensitive laughing-at-you comment (for those who think surely this can only be a tragedy). I’ve been living on the other side of the rabbit hole for so long, I’ve simply found the humor. I bet Heather will too. Eventually.

  • CM

    Jon, thanks very much for posting — so good to hear that Heather is doing a little better. Here’s all my hope for untroubled sleep and a swift return home. Warmest wishes from Brooklyn.

  • samantha

    as I read through these comments, the tears come – your family is surrounded with love. Thank you, Jon, for updating all of us who consider you and Heather friends in the dearest blog sort of way. When I asked certain people to pray for Heather, I said, ‘please pray for my friend.’ And she and you and Leta were one of the first things I thought of when I woke up this morning. We love you. Keep on going, and treat yourself like a most beloved relative.

    and refried beans? totally rock!

  • Brandon

    All my best to you and your family. You are both so brave for facing this thing head on and not letting it destroy your happiness. All my thoughts.

  • samantha

    sorry! didn’t mean to comment twice. I just couldn’t find my comment from before – so now I just have THREE comments and am SUCH a ding-a-ling.

  • miz_a

    I’m afraid I already sent the email before I checked the site…. but it says pretty much what everyone else has : best of luck, good wishes, you’re in my thoughts, and, oh yeah, I’m a total stranger, hope you don’t mind :)

  • http://none Tara

    Thanks for updating with some positive news. You’d be amazed how many times I thought of Heather today. Your family is certainly in my prayers. Leta is one luckly little girl to have such brave, strong and loving parents. I’m sending some Memphis love your way!

  • ar

    Coming out of the lurking shadows to send you good thoughts, strength, love, and admiration. I have some limited sense of what Heather is going through from my own struggles with depression, and wish you both the peace you so richly deserve.

    All the best thoughts…

  • Christina

    what can I say that hasn’t been said already. I found you through Heather’s site and enjoy the both of you. I’m pulling for you both and for sweet little Leta. Heather, I’m so glad you are getting the rest and help you needed. There is light at the end of this tunnel.

  • Jaime

    Jon, I wrote to Heather, but I’m glad to have the chance to leave you a message, too. I don’t you, but I’ve been reading Dooce and Blurbomat for years, and so many times I’ve read with envy – like that time you eloped to Yosemite, or remodelled the kitchen… and I’m sorry to hear that things have been so hard for both of you, and so glad to hear that things are looking up, even it’s only a little bit, and it’s still early. I am wishing you and Heather, Leta and Chuck all of the best possible things – love, and happiness. I know they will come. Hang in there. You’ve all got a lot of love coming your way!

    I hope that if there’s any help your family needs, that you’ll name it.

  • emdot

    Heather and Jon: Your honesty in the face of this has probably helped many people in similar circumstances (or less) feel like they aren’t alone. You sharing your darkest hour may help to shine light for others. I feel grateful that you are giving a voice to a difficult time, but am sad you have to go through this. Sending thoughts of love, strength and counted sheep.

  • Cameron

    Ah sleep…perchance to dream. Sleep, Dooce, and dream of Leta’s chubby cheeks and Jon wearing his glasses, and days without depression and anxiety.

    Love and well wishes,

  • Gwen

    Dear Jon, Dooce, and Leta,

    We are praying for your family here in our house. Thank you for your beautiful writing and thanks Jon for keeping us updated – I’m so glad I clicked back on your site tonight. We certainly pray that dooce gets the help that she needs to enable all of you to enjoy (to the fullest extent) this wonderful time in your lives.

  • mopsa

    Just de-lurking to say that the world is a better place with your little family in it. Here’s hoping all your good karma will swirl about you (all three of you) now, when you need it, and help you to find some relief from what ails you.

  • Amanda and Scott B.

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We’ve been through very similiar circumstances in our marriage and believe me, things will be ok. The fact that Heather is strong enough to reach out for help and that you support her are such amazing gifts for both of you. Brighter days are just ahead.

  • Paula

    Support and best wishes from West Texas. It’s awful to feel senseless anxiety and not be able to sleep. I can’t imagine even two nights in a row like that, much less what Dooce has been going through.

    My best,

  • Lisa

    Oh, just wishing for peace for all three of you. And Chuck.
    You can get through this and will.
    14 years ago my cousin suffered severe PPD and her husband brought the guns to our house for safe keeping. With meds and therapy she came through it. She even had another baby, and PPD was much less that time.
    She is a happy, healthy mom now- and I know Heather will be too.
    Take time and space and know strangers will be loving you on the other side.

  • C.Y.

    My best wishes to all of you. has been and still is my favorite personal blog of all time, bar none.

  • Jamie

    I discovered Heather many many months ago, and have been addicted since. You, Heather & Leta are all in my prayers.

  • Kristen

    I’ve been reading both of your sites for a few months now and just thought I’d join the long list of lovers and supporters. Heather has made me laugh over and over and I look forward to her updates like a crackwhore and her next fix. I love your baby and your dog and think you guys rock. All good vibes your way from me…

  • Jeanne

    What a wonderful gift you both have to inspire so much love through writing honestly about yourselves. My thoughts and wishes have been with Heather all day. Thank you for the update.
    And thank you for reaffirming MY faith in people being nice and decent and good.

  • Deri Collingwood

    My friends and I have often wondered what would we do if we ever ran into the Armstrongís on the street. We agreed it would be like a rock star sighting. And as much as I love me some Mick Jagger, I would certainly step on his neck to exchange just one bit of caustic banter with Heather. She has been an incredible inspiration to me and when she does decide to go forward with a paid site she can count on me as a paid subscriber. And, should you two feel like it is all too much and you need to take a look outside and see that others are equally riddled with pain, check out my blog. I was recently dumped on my 30th birthday by my best friend/boyfriend/roommate of four years.

    All the best to your family. You are loved more than you know, by those that you donít even know.

    Deri Collingwood

  • http://none Mark Silcox

    Heya y’all. I have been reading your sites more or less mutely for the past two years, but it breaks my heart to hear that the Dooce has reached the end of her tether. You are clearly an abnormally good-natured, warm and witty pair – best of luck to you.

  • Lisa

    I’ve been reading Dooce for about six months now and I pray that everything turns out okay for the both of you. Heather, you’re a strong lady and you’ve got a great man, baby, and dog behind you. And us.

  • Dinah

    Thank you for including us in the process of getting through this. As you see, we’re thinking of you, wishing you well, sending you strength and love. If there’s anything more we can do, just let us know.

    Big hugs and sweet happy sleeeeepiness from San Francisco.

  • Leah

    Just sharing the love.

  • Bob and Felicia

    Hang in there;we’ve been through a minor version of what you are going through. Believe it or not, the fog does lift, when you least expect it.

  • azuradec

    thinking of all of you from here in malaysia and sending over some positive vibes for dooce to get better. thanks for keeping us up to date. its makes me feel much better knowing whats happening (i feel like a concerned friend even though im just a lurker).

  • Viola

    Thank you for the update.
    I know that it must be very hard for the three of you and I soo much hope that Heather will be feeling better soon.

  • julie

    I wish all the best for Heather, her courage is an inspiration. Jon, you should be husband of the year for your terrific support of her. Best wishes to you all. Leta’s lucky to have such wonderful parents to raise her, she’ll be an asset to the world some day.

  • Dasha

    My best wishes and good vibes are hopefully streaming their way southwest. Heather and Jon, I wish you strength and health and peace. And much love.

  • blackbird

    thinking of the three of you…

  • Caryn

    Thank you for sharing an update, you have been in our thoughts and prayers all day.

  • beth

    I am sending little packets of hope and encouragement from the other side of the planet – hopefully they will orbit around and find you three.

  • Angie Muldowney

    The last couple of days reading your blogs has made me realise that you’re both real people with real problems, not just lovely and witty characters who are there to entertain me.

    I’m no expert on mental health, but other medical issues have made me realise that sometimes looking at the ‘big picture’ or the long term is just to big and scary. The little steps though, the day to day or hour to hour is what counts – it’s much more managable and will make the difference in the end.

    Good luck, always!

  • Janet

    I’ve been reading Dooce religiously for several years now and am always amazed at how much I have in common with Heather. I know the demons of severe anxiety all too well and sympathize with her. Her post took me back to darker days not too long ago. Temporarily removing yourself from the situations that cause the anxiety and getting some decent sleep is definitely a step in the right direction (I know it worked wonders for me!). My thoughts are with your family.

  • another Karen

    Across the world, Heather’s site, as well as yours have managed to touch other people’s lives. Thank you for the update. And it’s good to hear that she is doing a bit better. I hope that she comes home soon.

    Take care.

  • courtney

    Very glad to hear there’s improvement. Feed that baby whatever you want, and continue to take wonderful care of your wife and family. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

  • la chica alta

    This is my first time commenting here. I wish you and your family the best. You are in my prayers.

  • Sabrina

    I’ve got you all in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that Heather can get the help that she needs and that you are helped by that. Enjoy your time with Leta! Thank you to both of you for letting all of us into your lives. I wish I could offer some substantial help.

  • aibee

    Thankyou so much for the update.

    I’m sure I speak for most everyone here when I say that if there was anything we could do to help, we’d do it.

    My thoughts are with you all, and so are thoughts and well wishes of so many here-and that amount of good vibin’ has gotta count for something.

  • n

    I’d say you were in my prayers, but I don’t pray. I will be thinking of you all the time, though! I wish I could do something to help. Get well really soon.

  • arielle

    appreciate the update.
    this is such a strong and hard thing that heather is doing, and i, and i think a lot of people, have more respect than ever for her, and for you as well.
    my good thoughts and wishes are sent your way, and the hopes that everything will be figured out soon.

  • Heather

    I couldn’t sleep for the longest time the night I knew Heather was spending her first night in the hospital, as crazy as that sounds. I have loved reading about your lives and I was so worried about her and your family. Now I’m so glad to hear she’s doing better and getting the rest she needs. My prayers are with y’all and I know everything will turn out wonderfully. Good luck and best wishes!

  • Kris

    Dear Jon & Heather –

    I just want to add my best wishes to everyone else’s. I’m thinking about you both, and hoping that things get at least a little easier soon. Sending you both as many electronic hugs and kisses as you might like.

    Dear everyone else –

    If you’re like me, you may find yourself wishing you could do something concrete to help. I though I would suggest then that people perhaps use the “Donate” link on Dooce’s site to send a couple of bucks. I figured I would have sent flowers or something, so I might as well do this instead. I thought I would just mention it as an idea here, because certainly Jon or Heather wouldn’t – and other people like myself might be really wishing there was something they could do and not be aware that there is that donate link. So….

  • Emily

    I’m thinking of you guys.

  • Nicole Abrams

    I am so incredibly touched to see ALL of these comments. You two, well four actually, have touched so many peoples lives. I, too, am thrilled to find some decency in mankind.

    I would like to challenge everyone who has sent their prayers and good vibes to the Armstrongs to put their money where their mouth is and donate a few bucks!

    DOOCE! You will conquer this and there are so many of us out here supporting you and praying for your recovery! You are an inspiration in strength, honesty, and mankind. I am very proud of you and your ability to be so strong, even though I am sure you are not feeling that way right now. You have a fabulous family and fan base here to support you through anything!


  • shannon

    i just wanted you both to know i’m thinking of you and wishing you the best.

  • sweetney

    riding the coattails of ‘Kris’: if we each clicked the dooce “donate” link and put in ten measly bux, that would be…what, enough for a short vacation for these kids, right? or enough to keep then in refried beans for a year… or help them out for a couple months with expenses…

    if i knew where to send flowers or books or good CDs i’d have done all that, as i think many of you would’ve. so what do you say we all chip in a few greenbacks in lieu of those things?

  • Suzy

    I’m a new reader too. I found my way here via Heather’s site.

    I just wanted to offer a show of support for both of you. The two of you have shown a tremendous amount of courage by sharing the intimate details of your lives…Especially now. For what it’s worth, my thoughts and prayer’s are with you.

  • midwifegoddessannie

    There is NO WAY that Heather can’t get better… With this many people thinking and hoping and praying. We have created an enormous vibe of love and support that spans many countries. I am totally awestruck at the thought….

  • Liz

    This coming from someone who’s battled with depression all her life and have been inside a hospital as well, it does get better. Dooce, you’re doing the right thing for you and your family and together you guys will be strong enough to pull out of this. Get well soon!

  • Zanna

    Best wishes from Montana. Heather, I vividly remember the first thought I had when my first child popped out…OH MY GOD, I HAVE JUST LOST CONTROL OF MY WORLD!

    Anxiety and parenting are a hard combo. You three are good and strong and loved, and sunny days and fields of daisies lie ahead. Hang on, hang tight.

  • kim

    i just can’t tell you often enough how brave i think heather is and how great you are with all the love you have for one another. i wish my mom would have done the same as heather and come forward with her depression giving us the chance to help her soon enough… loads of love to you three from overseas!!

  • Trance

    I truly believe that the support of a loving family and loving friends is crucial to a person’s recovery from this kind of thing, and obviously Heather has that, so the rest, as hard and and much of an uphill climb as it may be, will eventually start to come together.

    It’s so damned hard to admit that you need help, and I admire how candid both of you have been throughout this ordeal. It’s inspiring, and it is yet another step toward destigmatizing mental illness, something that means a hell of a lot to me personally.

    Much love to you both and to Leta. Beans are great for babies – just be prepared for some diaper changes that may make you wish for an oxygen tank.

  • Sue

    All the love from Ohio! Hang in there and if I could fly out and help you, I would. You’re all in our prayers.

    (ps-babies and refried beans….ROCK ON! My three kids have always loved things that make for ‘interesting’ results….) Love you guys!

  • laura

    Heather, Jon, Leta – thinking of you guys! Hang in there!

  • Mrs. Kennedy

    Well, I’m not really a praying person but I dusted one off for you all this morning. I love you guys.

  • debbie

    what can i say that all these lovely people haven’t already said?? i’m really rooting for dooce! my atheist prayers are with you and your beautiful family.

    oh, and if leta likes beans, you should go the whole mexican route! guacamole is the perfect brain food!

  • Philadelphian

    I think I wrote this to Heather in an e-mail before, but I will say it here as well. I was depressed throughout high school and an anorexic in college. I met my boyfriend while he was still on Zoloft and stayed while he weaned himself off of it, the lowest point in our relationship. My best friend tried to commit suicide sometime during that period as well. For two years, it seemed like depression was the only constant in my life. There was just no way to comprehend how anything could get better.

    Many tears and three years later, I am planning a wedding. As of today I have a fiancee who is working a job he loves and can barely remember his horrible detox period. My former roommate is getting her Master’s and is in a wonderful relationship, and I am sitting here in front of my laptop, feeling undeservedly blessed and wishing the same for your little family. I can’t say it enough; I am so touched by the openness, generosity and love that flows between the two of you, and am so impressed that you choose to share even your personal struggles with the world.

    I know you guys will pull through this because I can’t see you giving up on each other. That love is the only miracle your family will ever need.

  • Philadelphian

    I think I wrote this to Heather in an e-mail before, but I will say it here as well. I was depressed throughout high school and an anorexic in college. I met my boyfriend while he was still on Zoloft and stayed while he weaned himself off of it, the lowest point in our relationship. My best friend tried to commit suicide sometime during that period as well. For two years, it seemed like depression was the only constant in my life. There was just no way to comprehend how anything could get better.

    Many tears and three years later, I am planning a wedding. As of today I have a fiancee who is working a job he loves and can barely remember his horrible detox period. My former roommate is getting her Master’s and is in a wonderful relationship, and I am sitting here in front of my laptop, feeling undeservedly blessed and wishing the same for your little family. I can’t say it enough; I am so touched by the openness, generosity and love that flows between the two of you, and am so impressed that you choose to share even your personal struggles with the world.

    I know you guys will pull through this because I can’t see you giving up on each other. That love is the only miracle your family will ever need.

  • Philadelphian

    I think I wrote this to Heather in an e-mail before, but I will say it here as well. I was depressed throughout high school and an anorexic in college. I met my boyfriend while he was still on Zoloft and stayed while he weaned himself off of it, the lowest point in our relationship. My best friend tried to commit suicide sometime during that period as well. For two years, it seemed like depression was the only constant in my life. There was just no way to comprehend how anything could get better.

    Many tears and three years later, I am planning a wedding. As of today I have a fiancee who is working a job he loves and can barely remember his horrible detox period. My former roommate is getting her Master’s and is in a wonderful relationship, and I am sitting here in front of my laptop, feeling undeservedly blessed and wishing the same for your little family. I can’t say it enough; I am so touched by the openness, generosity and love that flows between the two of you, and am so impressed that you choose to share even your personal struggles with the world.

    I know you guys will pull through this because I can’t see you giving up on each other. That love is the only miracle your family will ever need.

  • absolut doc

    We’re all glad and relieved to hear that she’s doing better, and here’s hoping she’ll return home to many nights of peaceful, deep, sleep next to you (or with the lovely Leta wedged in between you).

  • Muffinzz

    Heather, you’re so strong to be able to admit to yourself that you’re having trouble, and to make the choice to check yourself in when I’m sure that the last thing you want to do is be away from Leta. I’ve been in the dark place too, after my son was born, but I couldn’t see it for myself – my husband had to get the help for me. Good for you that you’re doing the right thing for yourself, and Leta and Jon.

    And Jon, what an amazing guy. It’s so obvious that you’re doing all you can to help Heather through this. Y’all deserve nothing but happiness.

    Our love to both of you, and little Leta and Chuck. Keep taking care of each other.

  • Tammie Booth

    I’ve been thinking of your family and sending positive energy your way for the last few days. Hang in there! I know you already know this, but this is the best thing that you all can do for Heather’s health and for your family. You have both touched lot of complete strangers like me with what you do on the internet. Hopfully, you’re getting that good karma back now and then some.

  • Annecat

    Dear Jon, Dooce and Leta,

    Just wanted to let you know that someone as far away as Denmark is thinking about you and hoping the very best for your family!

  • lisa in ri

    Wow, this is why I love the Internet. I only started reading your blogs recently. The photos of the dog with the spaghetti on its nose… I’m laughing just thinking about it!

    And now, gosh, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re being challenged like this. But I know you’re going to make it (you Heather, you Jon).

    You two not only have talent and humor and grace, you have this enviable love, and that’s why I believe, even without the support from your family and friends and the outpouring of good wishes from strangers (like me!), you will be all right.

    Selfishly enough, I’m looking forward to the both of you resuming your regular blog-writing.

    [sending positive thoughts your way]

  • storm

    many many well wishes for all of you, thank you for posting an update!!!!


  • M

    People have commented on this above me, but I’ll repeat: it is so strange how complete strangers can evoke emotions. I feel so bad for you two right now, and also feel confident that both of you will get through it. Best of luck, and thank you for the updates. Your family has a huge amount of support coming from all over the world, even Canada! Take care, and I also agree with the comment about maybe this would be a good time for us faithful lurkers to send some cash.

  • jodeci

    More love from Taiwan. Everything will be fine.

  • manda

    Your family is in my prayers.

  • Dana

    I read Dooce regularly, but never comment (everyone always says the stuff I want to before I can!) but I wanted to chime in with the hugs and prayers and good thoughts – because, it seems to me, now is a good time to “say it”! Take good care of each other, and know that you’ve got a whole heap of people standing behind you cheering you on through this – if there’s any power in the collective “vibe”, you can bet you’re getting the full benefit! :)

    GO HEATHER!! YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS! YOU WILL! (And I know this because you are STRONG, girl! Stronger than you can imagine!)

    GO LETA! BE NICE TO YOUR DAD! (And take advantage of a little “Daddy” time to teach him all those things that you do to make Mommy swear! :)

    GO JOHN! YOU ROCK FOR BEING A GREAT DAD & HUSBAND! (And make sure to take good care of YOU, too, right now!)

  • Dana

    Oh for crying out loud, I spelled JON wrong. And I KNEW I was doing it wrong and hit “post” anyway!
    (Maybe this is why I don’t usually send comments!)

    Let’s rewrite that last bit:

    GO JON! YOU ROCK FOR BEING A GREAT DAD & HUSBAND! (And make sure to take good care of YOU, too, right now!)

  • jen

    i wish you both much love, sending lots of good thoughts your way!!! Get well, Heather!

  • donnaly

    I have to add my thanks for the update. You 4 have been in my thoughts since Heather first posted. I wonder if Leta will understand what wonderfully brave, strong people her parents are. Sending healing thoughts to you all.

    Oh, and no one need chastise you on the refried beans. Leta will do that by herself ~smirk~

  • Annie

    thanks for the update. best of luck to heather, leta, and yourself!

  • D

    I’m just thankful that you guys have the resources to check her in- in Canada there’s no beds and a lot of people in your neck of the woods don’t have the insurance for it. I’ve had moments where I’ve thought about trying to get myself checked in- quite recently in fact, but I think it’s a pretty futile idea. It would just mean a long encampment in the ER of a downtown Vancouver hospital and being sent home with my husband being told to keep my medication under lock and key.

    Anyway, I will be thinking about the Armstrong clan this weekend and hoping Heather finds her way out of the fog. Love to you all- give Leta a kiss and Chuck a cookie.

  • Annie

    I can’t believe I can care this much about a familly I will never meet. Heather’s strength to share her battle somehow makes my fight a little easier. Bless you, Jon, for being there for her.

  • laurie

    I’ve been reading Heather’s blog for several months and just discovered yours a few days ago. The clarity and expressiveness, not to mention the sheer candor you both display when writing about Heather’s depression and anxiety have, in turn, really helped me to better understand what my own husband is going through as he deals with similar issues, and for that I can’t thank you enough. I wish you both the best. On a lighter note, I’m fixing spaghetti for dinner tonight, and there’s this dog/pasta trick I’ve been dying to try…

  • Dawn

    Heather is so brave for taking this step, and I am sure your support makes it so much easier. Throwing in the towel is always the easier option, so huge applause to you all. My family hold you all in our prayers and send good and groovy vibes your way. Please send love to Heather, give Leta a kiss and tell Chuck we think he rocks! Thanks for updating us.

  • mo

    My thoughts/prayers/meditations and good vibes are with you all. Thanks for the update and I look forward to more good news. All my Canuk love to you, Heather, Leta and Chuck.

  • Jennifer

    Thanks for the update. I’ve been worried about the two of you and trying to send out as many good thoughts/vibe/psychic energy as possible. Hang in there! From all the comments you’ve gotten so far, please let Heather know hundreds of people are pulling for her.

  • Kevin

    Best wishes and a speedy recovery!

  • jo

    Here’s to hoping that a good chemical alchemy can be found to get our Dooce back on an even keel. I wish you 4 (I have to include my favourite puppy – besides the pooper of course) the best wishes possible for a speedy and hopefully long term recovery.
    Ah heck, refried beans just look the same going in as coming out.

  • Chasmyn

    MY thoughts are with the three of you. I know this is an amazingly difficult time for all of you, and the thing that warms my heart is that Heather has such a wonderful support system in you. I wish for you the best, and a quick and complete recovery. Or at least some really good rest.

  • Heatheranne

    I LOVE refried beans!!

    I’m so glad to see that Heather’s doing better. You’re both in my thoughts!

  • Elizabeth

    You are all in my thoughts!
    Don’t let the Bastards wear ya’ll down~!
    I am glad you have each other

  • Jenae

    Your family will continue to be in my prayers. Even though I don’t *know* Heather I think of her as a dear friend.

    Jon, you are amazing.

  • motosmom

    man i love you guys. thanks for the update! my thoughts are always with you.

  • Diana

    I pray for both of you. You can get through this, and I wish you the best of luck for the future.


  • Catherine

    thinking of you both, and wishing you strength

  • Messed Up Mama

    Your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for the update, please keep us posted on how things are going. Blessed Be.

  • amanda

    you all deserve so much goodness in life, i can only hope that it comes soon.

    my thoughts are with you.

  • claudia

    all the way from europe i’m sending my love – i know you’ll make it.

  • catdog

    you both are amazing- i admire your courage, your strength and the love you share… you are in my thoughts and prayers

  • eli

    Thank you both for being so open and genuine and wonderful. My prayers go out to you and the beloved dooce. Be strong and feel the love we all send your family in this desperate, hopeful hour.

  • Kay

    Praying for you guys.

  • Angela

    I’ve been quietly reading Heather’s site for a few mnths now and all I can say is that it takes one strong person to do what she has done. Much luck and thoughts to both of you for your courage and hers. If only more people were like you two.

  • Kimberley


    You two make me smile, tear up, actually laugh out loud … My thoughts are with you, guys.

  • the country girl

    Okay, I’m a bad Heather-fan. I posted an email BEFORE I wandered over to your site Jon. But since I’m here I just wanted to say to you both that without Heather’s voice on the web it’s just not the same. That wit, sarcasm and brutal honesty she shares peppered with love and admiration for you and Leta is the true spirit of what the internet was and I hope will always have somewhere! Give Heather a hug for me, just one adoring reader, and tell her she’s missed!


  • Momsyomomsy

    Heather is so brave to so open about this struggle. I am certain that she is helping countless people to feel less alone. My prayers are with you all.

  • kimberly

    Much love and good thoughts and prayers to two of the most honest, refreshing, down-to-earth, strong, and REAL people I’ve ever read.

    You willl all get through because you share love. I admire your strength, and your courage for sharing.

    Going to go put my money where my mouth is now…

  • bee

    Dooce & Blurb…Firstly, thanks for the laughs, the insight and the reality of it all.

    Most importantly, though, take care and do good.

    Missing the Dooce and Wishing for The Best,


  • http://?? Beth

    Your story has touched me deeply.
    As the 50 year old daughter of a woman who suffered a major post partum psychiatric illness following the birth of my younger sister, be commended for getting Heather the help she needs in a timely way. Thanks to the gods of modern medicine help is lightyears improved over what was available circa 1957. (Freudian therapy and insulin shock as in “Beautiful Mind”) We all survived Mom’s ordeal and my sister and I grew up to be strong, compassionate, healthy women. My Dad was our rock through the years of her illness and the search for a treatment that worked. Her diagnosis was manic depression and our family made a lifetime comittment to her loving care. Did I mention that my Dad was our rock. I pray that Heather’s prognosis is good and that a treatment plan that works can be found soon. Know that Leta will thrive in the care of those who love her… that is clear. I pray for strength and patience for you all. Know that everything will work out.

  • Marissa

    I’m a firm believer that the strength pouring across the world for you, Heather, and well…Chuck…can cure anything.

    Best of luck and wishing you all the support in the world…

  • deborah

    Heather’s strength amazes me. It’s rather clichÈ, but I’m thinking about all of you.

  • Chelle

    Blurb and Dooce- Thank you for sharing your relationship so candidly with the world. Observing the relationship between the two of you gives me hope for a marriage as strong, real, and supportive as yours.

  • forksclovetofu

    Ya’ll are good people.
    Prayin’ for ya.

  • steph

    every time my own depression gets so bad that i wonder how i can go on, i think of heather. stay strong and get well. you are amazing people.

  • Chloe

    Well, I e-mailed too. Because I am just that much of a loser :o) . Number 259, maybe, and counting! I just finished reading Dooce-through-Blurb, and I’m so glad that things are looking up. But you guys are awesome, so I, at least, knew that sometime, somehow things would get better. After all, it couldn’t have gotten much worse. I hope everything only goes up from here! Internet love your way (ewww, sticky), in the most non-stalkerish way possible! Can’t wait to hear from you guys again!

  • Andrea

    Best wishes to you, Heather and your family. You two are amazing, and reading of your battle and everything youve been through gives hope. You are truly wonderful people.

  • Cathy

    I have just started reading your blogs this year, and I love reading them both.

    You both seem like such wonderful people, and I am so glad you share so much of yourselves for us to read. I am thinking about all of you, and Dooce, I hope that you get some sleep and get better!

    Know that there are many people out there thinking about you all.

    Take care,

  • Heather R.

    As someone who was depressed after the birth of my first child, I am so glad you and Heather are making this public. There was nothing worse for me than thinking I was simply a bad person or mother.

    I’ll be keeping your small family in my thoughts.

    Heather R.

  • Another Pam

    Glad to hear she is feeling a bit better.

  • H2

    definitely sending the love…

  • Mary

    Wow – as i’m not usually a bigtime citizen on the internet, i’m stunned at the fact i’m worried for a family i don’t even know (worrying is my version of caring). but having suffered depression before, and now preparing to have my first baby and being terrified of slipping into PPD bigtime, i am buoyed by your bravery and the potential for family love to raise us all up out of the doldrums. as others have said, that love will get you through. sending Jon Heather Leta my best thoughts….

  • megan

    Good luck, guys. xxx

  • nikki

    shit. sending lots of love and appluadng you both on your courage and honesty. I hope your superlove carries you both through to the other side.

    also – refried beans? awesome.

  • elyse

    officially: sharing all my love and concern and hope and admiration to both of you! fight on. my sister has gone through a similar disease, back before they actually accepted it as that, and is now the sister i remember. have hope and strength, all will be well!! i wish all of you the best of luck, and to leta, wonderous happiness and buckets of refried beans.
    <- elyse

  • Syd and Shan

    hey armstrongs,
    we’re thinking of you and know you’ll get through this and we love you very very much.

  • karen

    dear jon, heather and leta,

    i’ve been reading dooce and blurbomat since january of this year, and this is the first time i’ve commented. i’ve laughed with you (from far away), enjoyed every picture, hurrahed! over leta’s arrival and cheered chuck on as he ate george w. and perhaps i would have stayed quiet, save for wanting to tell you how many good thoughts and prayers i have been sending to your family throughout this past year but especially now. as someone who has dealt with depression since childhood in a family where we did not discuss such things (even though it runs in the family) until my younger sister’s became too harmful to deny. though the past year has been hell for nearly all members of my family, it has also brought us closer together and we are able to talk about things we should have been talking about long ago. and i am glad to be able to talk about it openly with others now too and fighting the stigma. thank you for choosing to share this with all of us and letting us support you, because the truth is that supporting you is supporting myself- and somehow it’s much too hard to remember to do unless it’s tied to other people. be well.

  • Julie

    The Goyettes wish you both and Leta the very best. We’ve been there, with small children and know how difficult this road is. It does get better in time.

    All the best,


  • karen

    p.s. i really wish i was able to edit my comment: with a sentence fragment and horrible grammar, no one would know i majored in english. gah! 😛

  • bb

    Just wanted to say that I have been reading Heather’s site for quite a while now, and recently yours. Both of you have such an amazing way of expressing yourselves. It’s always a pleasure to read your sites. I really hope Heather gets better and soon. Your love is an inspiration to me. Leta is sooo lucky to have parents like you.
    Wishing the best for her mommy!

  • Carly

    Refried beans rule! They grow in water! I’m sure Leta is digging them even if her diapers in the aftermath aren’t:) You sound like a super dad Jon, any kid would be so lucky! Courage, patience, love and strength to both of you wonderkinds in all of this… keep sharing, keep writing, keep hoping and dreaming!

  • jess

    Wow. I’m so in awe of Heather’s courage and strength. I really don’t even know how to put what I’m feeling in to words, but I just want you guys to know how much I respect both you and Heather. You, Jon, for your loyalty and your strength, too, as a husband. You both rock my socks all over the place, and I feel honoured to reading your sites!Also, I’ll keep you guys in my prayers if that means anything to you.

  • Sasha Hodder

    Heather you are an inspiration to us all. You will all be in my thoughts.

  • kim

    wow…so many people have posted. I’m not sure if this would be any different than the others. I just hope the best for your little family. I’ve been reading Heather’s blog for a long while now and she’s been so generous to share her life and beautiful pics with the internet. My prayers are with you guys.

  • Rosalie

    I know things will work out. When I spoke with Heather on the phone ages ago, she told me how badly you two were trying for little Leta. Now you have her! Without any doubt, I know you will find the peace you need – eventually – from all of this as well. It takes time. I, too, suffer from depression which was aggravated by Graves’ Disease (a thyroid disease) and am beginning to see the light after months of different meds, no meds, radiation, and new meds. It’s hard and a struggle for everyone involved. Stay strong. You have a tremendous support system, and I am most definitely a part of it.

  • em

    As a long time reader, first time commenter, I felt the urge to write and let you know that you have people all the way up in Canada sending you good vibes and best wishes.

    Much love to you, Jon without an ‘H’ (I have one of my own..he’s very particular about the lack of H) and Leta.

  • lisa

    Thank you for the update. I’m glad Heather is already feeling a bit better.

    As for the refried beans – my daughter was eating lemons and hummus at Leta’s age. She’s now 15 months old and likes anything from sauerkraut to raw peppers. Ignore any naysayers you might come across. They’re just beans for heavens sake.

  • Jo

    THANK you for updating on Heather; I’ve been thinking of her all weekend. Heather – woman, you rock. You are an awesome person, a fabulous mother, and I am so happy for you that you are seeking the help you need. There is NEVER shame in publicly talking about trials in life; God knows we all have them; we should only be so grateful for you in reminding us we are all human and that it is normal and right to be “not ourselves” at times. I admire you so —

  • Erin

    You’re all in my thoughts so much these last — months? Certainly more than ever in the last few weeks. The sheer, bonebreaking strength that it must require, Heather, to be in the place you’ve been in and to continue focusing on your value to the world, is difficult for me to imagine. Shiny vibes to all 3.75 of you.

  • amy

    Jon, I am amazed at the strength that both you and Heather have shown. I will have nothing but good thoughts coming your way in the coming weeks and months. I do hope this is the lowest of the swinging pendulum, and that things start going up from here.

  • sweetney

    not to be irritating — this is the THIRD freaking time i’ve posted — but since i know my previous post might get lost in all the love, i’d like to reiterate:

    “riding the coattails of ëKrisí: if we each clicked the dooce ìdonateî link and put in ten measly bux, that would beÖwhat, enough for a short vacation for these kids, right? or enough to keep then in refried beans for a yearÖ or help them out for a couple months with expensesÖ

    if i knew where to send flowers or books or good CDs iíd have done all that, as i think many of you wouldíve. so what do you say we all chip in a few greenbacks in lieu of those things?”

  • judith

    your friends in san francisco are pulling for you. soon there will be days with more naps, more laughter, more delight and more ease. know that there can’t possibly be any more love, however, that that which your family shares now, and which everyone else who cares for and about you surrounds you with at a distance.

  • tulip

    We are sending all three of you all our love and good vibes.

    Jon, I’m so glad Heather and Leta have you to lean on. Make sure you take time to take care of yourself too.

    Heather, I’ so glad you are getting the help you need and our thoughts are with you. As a bipolar mom I know some of what you are going through and I know you can find a solution that works. Much love to you honey.

    Leta, What great parents you have! You are the cutest baby in your age group! 😉

    Hugs to all of you and we’ll keep thinking our good thoughts and sending them your way.

  • gerrybuick

    Thanks for leaving this open.

    Friends are the outward appearance that your prayers are heard.

    I add my prayers to all the above.

    Your web log [yours and Heathers] sharing has bound all of us together. You know we love your family and we know you will succeed and get through this.

  • roxanne

    jon, thanks so much for the update. all of us out here that care about heather and her family are FLOODING the blogosphere with wishes for a speedy and successful recovery.

  • carrie

    Oops, I wrote an email to Heather before checking your site. Well, better to indulge in a little good wishes overkill every now and then, eh?

    My heart goes out to you and Heather, for your current problems. You are really great people, and I have enjoyed reading your blogs for ages now. For all the wonderful moments of entertainment and laughs you’ve given us, THANK YOU. The only thing I have to give you in return is good wishes and prayers that you will soon have a happy and healthy Heather back at home with you.

    Your support of Heather during this time is truly heartwarming, Jon. How lucky you are to have each other.

  • nancy

    Sending thoughts and prayers to you from my family to yours… you’ll get through this, I’m sure!

  • Jo

    Just wanted to join the cacophony (sp?) of e-voices out here wishing all three of you all the best.

    As someone who suffers from the ‘Big D’ myself, I have so much empathy, sympathy, understanding and anguish for you guys! And most of all respect for the way that you are both facing these problems together.

    Get well soon, Heather! Stay strong Jon! Keep being gorgeous Leta!

  • Karen

    Dear GOD, thank the Lord you guys posted. Happy to hear that Heather’s feeling better, and seems to be on the road to recovery. And how amazingly lucky is she to have you as her support!

    Hang in there, kiddos. I see light at the end of the tunnel.

  • AmandaB.

    I just read Heather’s post. It brought back some pretty painful memories of my own journey. Ouch for me and Ouch for MamaDooce. I know that she will get through this. My heart is full of faith and admiration and Heather is right. We are all out here praying and rooting for her. If ever there were a cool, rockin’, kick ass chick- Heather is it. Stigma-shmigma. Who cares what other people think.

  • amy

    it is wonderful to know that heather is in good hands.

    your sites help people who are not directly exposed to a mental illness understand a bit how difficult the process is…mental illnesses are often misunderstood and those suffering can be left feeling that they should have control over it. these illnesses are chemical imbalances that need to be treated professionally, either through therapy or medically or both.

    we watched as a relative took a downward spiral after the death of her husband. it is difficult to determine when to intervene. and while the important thing is that we finally did…it was still painful and we were full of guilt and questioning.

    we are now working with a close relative with obessive-compulsive disorder. a very complicated and difficult disease for all involved. an innocent person with a wonderful personality is plagued with something that is beyond her control. luckily we live in a city with an excellent center that specializes in that. the guilt and questioning is there as well as with any disease.

    thank you, thank you, thank you.

    embrace beans!

  • AmandaB.

    P.S. If someone wants to mess with the Dooce, send ’em my way and I’ll lay down some slow karate on dey ass.

  • tiff

    How is it that a family can charm the ENTIRE Internet?

    You guys have so many good vibes coming your way right now, Leta will probably be in a cap and gown before your good vibes run out.

    My thoughts are with all of you.

  • Leigh

    Heather may you find your way out of the black hole that too many of us know very well.

    Sending love to all the Armstrongs, you are in my thoughts.

  • Elaine

    I think both of you are very brave and strong and are amazing. This is a dark period now but I’m positive both of you will pull through. We love you Heather. Take care.

  • MCR

    You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Love and smiles and hope sent your way from the East Coast.

  • Kate

    I never thought I’d be leaving a comment on this site, but the recent entries on both your and your wife’s sites have moved me and touched me. I truly believe that you two (or three rather) will pull through this and be fine. The abundance of love shines through your websites and there is nothing that that much love can’t defeat. At the risk of sounding corny I have truly been inspired. I wish and hope nothing but happiness for your beautiful family.

  • Rachel

    Thinking about you always in Connecticut!

  • Katy

    If anyone can get through this – Heather can – with the love and support of her incredible husband and adorable daughter. You are not alone. We all love you and support you.

    Sending you good vibes and loving wishes.


  • Rachel

    Thinking about the three of you always! Heather, thanks for inspiring us all with your courage and honesty.

    Love from Connecticut!

  • taryn

    May sleep comfort you, beautiful and courageous Heather. Sending love to the whole family from Michigan.

  • Lindsey

    I never check my ‘blog reads’ on the weekends but I just had to check in @ Dooce to see if there was an update. It sounds like Heather’s slowly on the mend. The 2 of you are in my thoughts. Hang in there.

  • Lindsey (again)

    Load up on the refried beans Leta, go for it babe, whatever rocks your diaper off :)

  • andrea

    my thoughts are with you all, especially heather during her courageous battle. wishing a quick recovery for dooce and a speedy reunion for your family.

  • Emily

    Just another note to say I am thinking of you all and sending you tons of love from little old me in Boston. And my cat sends love too. As the Tinman in the Wizard of Oz says, (in the book) “Never give up. You never know what’s going to happen next.” I am wishing it is something wonderful.

    Also, another favorite – “if you are going through hell, keep going”.

    I can’t remember who said that one…

  • janet

    it seems everything’s already been said, so all i can add is some more Internet love from Australia. x

  • tinygirl

    my preliminaries for a major exam are but less than a week away, yet i can’t stop myself from coming online, typing in (after which, and hoping for an update.

    today, there was one awaiting me! :)

    dear dooce, i hope you’ll be able to sleep better than ever before after your treatment. get well soon — because leta, chuck and most importantly, jon, all need you.

    (plus, i can’t live without your blog. :\ )

    jon : three cheers for you! (hiphiphurray hiphiphurray hiphiphurray!) hang in there. :)

  • Carla Beth

    No matter my various comments regarding some of your posts, Heather, you are someone we (my blog reading group) deeply care about. You are in my prayers and my thoughts.

  • http://none Laura

    May you have competent doctors and accurate medication!
    Love from St. Louis for one very brave Heather.

  • http://n/a George

    Hello Jon,
    I just wanted to say first off that you are one of my favorite, if not the favorite, cousin-in-law’s. I’m glad to hear Heather was able to take a nap and things are looking up. I’m also glad to hear that you’ve been able to talk to Robert and Tiffany a lot, and been able to help each other in the process.

    Hope everything is well, I didn’t forget about sending those pictures to you, I’m just super busy with the college life and all.

    I leave you (and Leta, and Chuck, and Heather) my best.

  • A.K.

    So good to hear there has been some improvement. Hang in there both of you, continued well wishes coming your way.

  • noelle

    sending my love and prayers for heather and all of you. i adore all four of the immediate armstrong clan (:

    and gl with the refried bean poopie diapers (!)

  • Carole

    I’m a new-ish dooce/blurb reader who has been telling my husband my concerns for you guys since first reading of H’s postpartum depression & anxiety. I’m a stay home mom of a 9mo, so I know how maddening it can be sometimes keeping the baby engaged and happy. ESPECIALLY when you are tired and spent in every way yourself. My heart has been going out to you for months now.

    If there’s such a thing as positive kharma, then you must be feeling some good effects from all of this cyber-love from your readers! Best wishes, thoughts, prayers, etc. YOU CAN DO THIS!

  • jenny

    Lots of well wishes coming your way. Thank you for the update.

  • maxigumee

    Heather is sososososoososososososoooooo brave to be doing all of this! Anything to do with doctors and needles and medicine scares the crap out of me. I don’t think I could ever bring myself to voluntarily do something like that. Good luck! :)

  • Mike

    Ladies and gentleman,

    Welcome to the new American Soap Opera –

    “Living a Real and Actual Human Life, by Heather and Jon”

    These two beautiful people, in conjunction with their little Leta, give us joy, sorrow, pain, exaltation and elation on a regular basis – just like humans should experience every day. I love them both !!

    “Don’t give up, don’t ever give up.”
    – Jimmy V

  • Tess

    Love the donate idea – thanks to those who suggested it. Not only will it help guarantee that we remain up on the haps of this kick-ass family, but I think it’ll be cool to make things a little easier for them during a time when life is kicking their asses a little (but only temporarily… Stand by for Round Two, when the Armstrongs get all super-fly TNT, Guns of the Navarone on life’s shit!)

  • Amy

    Yay for good doctors. A good one got me out of lock-down too!
    Yay for unlocked and visits! When I was in there, I played pingpong with my sister and proclaimed I was Forrest Gump, using my 2 paddles..despite not hitting one ball!

    Now who looks crazy?! Believe me, you can handle this!! Thanks for these updates and your strength and care of your family, Jon. Love to Heather! Love to you all!

  • Jessica

    Just wanted to say my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family…I’m sending you tons of good thoughts!

    Take care, Armstrong Family!

  • Lividviv

    Hello — I’m a daily Dooce reader and after chiming in with all of the wishes and hopes her readership are sending, have the following bits of wisdom for you.
    My childhood situation as a child was a bit similar to Leta’s. I’ve never met anyone in the same boat before so I’ve never been able to compare experiences but, from afar, and in case any of what my family learned could help you guys, here goes.

    My mother has bipolar affective disorder. She had a breakdown ten months after I was born and needed a rest in the psych ward. This was her second or third such episode and she had many more over the years. So, though mom’s situation is extreme in comparison to Heather’s, and not to mention the drugs these days are, like, waaaay better, here are some things we learned:
    -after three sleepness nights, mom would get sick. No question. So, the trick was in making sure she slept. Over the years, we found the best thing was for her to have afternoon rests. She wouldn’t always sleep, but it helped. The sleeping pills helped too.
    -when mom was well, we needed to be more than a nuclear family. we needed extended family and friends around to help take care of the kids, because she needed to get away from the intensity of the mother-kid relationship. She is just a very sensitive person who needed constant reminders of things to help her get perspective.
    -when mom wasn’t well, my father, who was working, needed a similar amount of help as he became quite strained from the pressures of taking care of his job, kids and wife. (we made the mistake of trying to do everything alone)
    -my father never relaxed his taking-care-of-the-family role. this was hard on everyone, and him too. take it from me: do not put your own emotional needs aside just because hers are greater. take breaks to go fishing.
    -another lesson we learned was that my sister could visit my mom in the ward and it would be fine. But I was too sensitive and tended to act strangely around her. So I was taken to visit her less as otherwise it was too much of a strain on me.
    -another mistake we made is that we tried to hide a lot of this stuff (my father is very very private). Luckily YOU guys aren’t silly people! :)
    -we also tried to hide our own problems from mom so as not to burden her. in fact, i think she would have felt less guilty about getting sick if she had been able to help us with our shit. Also, it would have provided a welcome distraction from her demons.
    -it is excellent that you’d already weaned Leta. We hadn’t weaned me, and that was very hard on mum and I, I gather.
    -don’t depend on drugs alone. it’s fashionable these days to say mental illnesses are chemical balances only, but if you look closer at the literature, that appears to be only half the story. If your doctor has prescribed her ten different meds in a few months with no psychotherapy, I highly suggest changing doctors.

    Anyway, there are probably lots of other things I could say, but these are the main ones. Thank you for reading this far. I’ve always wanted to share these things with someone who could get some use out of them. i can tell you I have some idea of how you feel and, though families with mental illnesses struggle more than others, the lens they see the world with is more exquisite because more deeply felt.

    Keep cool, stay warm

  • DeAnn

    I was talking to some non-blog-reading new parents today about Heather and what she’s doing. They both said, “That is so wonderful that she took the steps to do that” and then told me scary stories about things that happen when mothers (and fathers) aren’t smart enough and proactive enough to deal with this kind of anxiety and depression. I will not go into horror stories here for obvious reasons, but I will say: Thank God that you are smart enough and caring enough people to seek the help that is needed.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    And also, with all of the joy you spread into our little lives through the Web, some excellent karma is beyond due. Here’s hoping it arrives quickly!

  • jenny


    with love from Los Angeles.

  • Jenn

    My heart and thoughts go out to your family, Jon.

  • Krystal

    I’m glad to hear heather is starting on a path that seems well. I hope she better soon. and Jon, you are so strong for going though this with Her and helping all you can. You two are truely great people.

    Myself and a few friends, send our thoughts and best wishes your way, with love from CT.

  • nicole

    i can’t say anything that hasn’t been said 327 times already, but our thoughts are with you in san francisco.

  • Brad

    The entire family are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you both for your beautiful humility.

  • Sheryl from Seattle

    Well darn, because I flunked blog reading comprehension and the clicking of URLs that are posted in blog entries for educational purposes, I didn’t see until too late that I shouldn’t have sent an email, and should have instead commented here. Please forgive my blog lurker bad manners. To sum up my email, I too went slightly insane a couple of years ago, am now the person I am today, still slightly insane, however no longer in a so-called clinical way.

    You’re my hero Mrs Dooce, and you as well Jon, both of yours bravery is inspiring.

    Sending many warm thoughts your way,

    From Seattle – Sheryl

    ps I think the eating of refried beans is very nouveau.

  • Aimee

    Wow- 330 well wishers… you barely need another! However, I too sent an email yesterday- it was about magnesium & it’s possible relation to chronic depression/fatigue. I’m reading lately that a combo of magnesium/calcium (about 600mg & 1,200mg) can do wonders for people tortured with all kinds of things- maybe Heather’s drs have considered it already? (I sent a “letter” I found on line from a girl with chronic depression & she claims magnesium has changed her life- SAVED it, actually- she was on the verge of suicide.

    You both are so brave to share your lives like this with… whomever, and those of us who read either just adore your little family- and those who don’t should not waste your time our ours & go elsewhere.

    Great love & prayers,
    Aimee & Jean-FranÁois

  • Teresa

    hugs from new zealand.


  • Heather

    I’m glad you and Leta are enjoying your time together, and I’m so glad that Heather is getting what she needs as well. I hope your family has turned a corner and that things can look up from here.

  • SamsAnt

    Hugs & Love & Hope from Peoria.

  • diane

    best wishes, prayers and good luck to you, Heather, and Leta.

  • sigga

    what i wanted to say doesn’t translate into English all that well so:

    Bar·ttukve?jur fr· Õslandi = best wishes & good luck in the fight

    a fan from Iceland

  • phin

    To Leta: Refried beans are the best, both for snacking and decoration (the dried stuff is like CEMENT).

    To Chuck: I’m thinking you could milk this for a lot of potato chips. Maybe even cheese.

    To Jon: You are indeed a Superhero.

    To Heather: Continue to kick ass, Mama Dooce. If you ever doubt that you are doing the best thing for your family, DON’T. Plus, thank you for maintaining your sense of the absurd. Of course mental disease is serious, but much of it is so, so funny. Bless you (if blessing from a lapsed Congregationalist mean anything).

  • su

    Horray for both of you for embarking on this very brave step.
    wonderful Heather – you are in so many way such a strong woman, your honesty and bravery is inspiring. I just know wellness is ready to say hello to you very soon.

  • Matt

    Absolute best wishes from Springfield, IL.

  • rabsy

    It is raining outside, here in Toronto. But soon I know the clouds will shift their weight, slip away and the bright bright sun will shine. Then later, there will stars and a full moon.

    You four will see this soon, too.

  • sara

    Daily, I sit and read both of your posts with matched awe. You are tremendous people. Almost every day, something that Heather writes strikes a cord so deep in me that I am moved to tears. While this may sound hokey, it’s true. I call my cute husmick in here and make him lay on the floor and listen while I read out loud. We’re thinking of all three of you – again, without knowing you, and yet knowing you in a very deep and meaningful way. Heather: you are strong and brave and beautiful. Jon and Leta are both extremely lucky. Jon: Heather couldn’t have pre-ordered from the husmick store a better guy. Both her and Leta are lucky. You two blow our minds on a regular basis and we are wishing and hoping and pulling for you all. I wish I were there to cover baby Leta’s cheeks with kisses and to tell her (as an outsider) how much her parents love and adore her. We are thinking of you all … xox

  • Michelle

    To both of you – the strength and love you have for each other and your individual courageousness will get you through this.

    To Jon – For being a wonderful, loving supportive husband that puts all other “typical husbands” to shame – you ROCK! Heather is lucky to have to and I am sure you are just as important as an therapy of treatment in her getting better.

    To Heather – From now on whenever someone asks me who I would most like to meet in this world. My answer is you. Your courage and determination to get better is paralleled by no other.

    Having anxiety and depression myself I agree with you – STIGMA SCHMIGMA – It is part of who we are and if people do not like it – TOUGH!

    Here is to getting home soon and LOTS AND LOTS of NAPS!

  • Sheryl

    I am so glad things seem to be looking up a bit. I have been worried aboout Heather (strange how you can be worried about someone you’ve never met). I have three kids (for some reason I feel compelled to give you my parenting resume, in hopes my unsolicited, probably unwanted advice will weigh more). I know that the tunnel out of post-partum depression is a long and hellish one, but I wanted to tell you two things which helped me. One was having a close friend move in with us for a while. It was such a life saver to have another Adult in the house during the day while my husband was at work. Also getting out of the house regularly without the baby: volunteering, a part time job, or a get together with a friend. I know there is no quick fix, and these things may not help at all, and people have probably already suggested them, but I wanted to put in my $.02. I am sending you good thoughts and prayers.

  • Jennifer

    From one who has been there and back again, I’m offering no advice, simply sending cyber hugs and warm vibes to both of you every day as you get through this together. It can get better; it will get better.

    You’re in my thoughts.

  • Kitta

    Heather, you are the coolest mother-fucker in the world. Youíll be in my thoughts and Iíll be sending you love along with the rest of the internet.

  • feisty girl

    So many non-religion based prayers are being sent to all of you. I have similar issues, and I am often amazed at how little credit my husband recieves for his care of me, and yet he does it, just because he loves me. He’s my hero, much like I am sure that you are to Heather.

  • Sarah

    All my good thoughts are for you, Heather, Leta, and Chuck! Much love.

  • Katy

    You are a rock, and your love and caring for Heather amazes me. You are doing the most wonderful job and I’m sure you’ll be rewarded!
    You are the bravest woman I know. I have twin 4 month olds, and you are a bright spot in my day. I should tell you that you are not alone in your battle, and you will win. Thank you for being an honest light for my tunnel, I to am seeking help with my monsters.
    My five year old son had his first pinto beans at 7 months and has been a tooter ever since, you are going to love ethnic food!

  • erin

    to my new surrogate internet family:

    i promise the next time anyone clicks on the url link i’ll actually have some content to be viewed..

    if leta likes refried beans, you should try the whole burrito with her.. i had a Blue Margarita Birthday Bash for myself and my daughter Lenore was only 2 at the time.. not only did she enjoy making a burrito and eating it, but she turned herself into one, as well. Footy pajamas and shredded cheese. nummy!

    both of your entries brought tears to my eyes, and it seems as if you’ve been able to take a deep breath and sigh. it’s good to hear that you feel things will improve.. i hope it’s speedily, because jiggly plastic food is *not* cool unless it’s called Jello.

    be well.. <3

  • Kathryn

    Just look at all the people who care so much about your family. And I’m certainly included in that bunch.

    Tried, in fact, to tell my boyfriend about you this weekend: “I’m really worried about my friend. She’s had to go to the hospital–”
    “That’s terrible. Which friend?” he asked.
    “Well, you don’t know her. I mean…well, I don’t really know her either. But she has a baby. And a dog, and she ties spaghetti around his nose, which is really funny. And her husband, Jon–who I don’t know either–is amazing. And I’ve never met her, but she makes me snort-laugh when she puts cabbage in her bra….”

    Yup. Before you know it, I’ll be your new hospital roommate.

    You’re a great mom, Heather. Leta is lucky to have BOTH of you. (And so am I!)

  • Bea

    I just wanted to stop and send you good wishes. I read Heather’s weblog and I enjoy it very much because she’s a really smart person, but I’m really sorry she has to go through all this. You’re a wonderful husband and she’s going to be alright. Give her my regards, even if she has no idea of who I am.

  • wix

    hey, i apparently loved refried beans when i was about leta’s age, and i turned out fine, despite what my detractors might lead you to believe! we’ll be feeding our baby refried beans, pho, and all manner of mashed dim sum treats in about three or four months, so if there’s a bad-parent bandwagon parked in the refried beans aisle, we’re behind you in line.

    i am so, so glad that things are looking up!

  • kdub

    The two of you are an ispiration for those of us who are too scared to face our own problems sometimes. It’s great that you’re willing to do this hard and difficult work for each other and your beautiful daughter. I know you’ll come out of it with flying colors.

  • Crystal

    I’m so glad to hear that Heather is improving.
    As someone who has been through a similar situation I admire her bravery and strength.
    Your family will be in my thoughts.

  • Kourtney

    Thoughts, support, and love.

  • Jen

    My best wishes to all three of you. Heather – keep on truckin’, you’re a brave sassy lady and you deserve the best care and the best husband and the best daughter that you have. Jon – good man for sticking by, you’re a man in a million. Leta – keep munching those refried beans, then your mom will at least have one thing to thank god for being somewhere else whilst the post-bean daiper needed changing :)

  • Rachel

    So glad you’re all doing better. So, so glad Heather finally had a nap. I wish you all hours and hours of deep and refreshing sleep, and blinky waking-up to the smell of bacon frying.

  • Martha

    My prayers are with all of you. Get better. Feel well. Be happy.

  • Kahli

    Thinking good things, praying non-denom prayers and hurting with you and wishing all that is good and beautiful in our pretty little valley to go your way. Thank you for all you have shared and brought into our lives by doing so.
    Thank you and I am sending you all I have in the positive energy department! You are a beautiful family.
    Heather, thanks for helping undress the stigma and rule book on disease and what is or isn’t considered such. Jon, thanks for letting the whole world come over for a big ol’ plate of funeral potatoes to hear about how the family is holding up. It means a lot that you guys keep us posted.
    All my best Armstrongs, really, here you go [insert the best here], all of it.

  • PiscusFiche

    I appreciate hearing about your story so much. I think it’s awesome that Heather is willing to share her experiences–for one thing, people need to be aware of what the conditions are like, and secondly, there should be no stigma attach. (BTW, when I was sixteen, my four-years younger brother had to spend a month in the psych wing of the Utah Valley Regional Medical Centre, and our family went through a lot of group therapy and counseling. It was very tough, but it helped him immensely, I think. Also, I have been thinking about seeking medical help for my own problems which have been increasing debilitating, and it’s hopeful to see people who are willing to take those steps and be so open about it. Believe me when I say I wish you all the best luck.)

    For Heather herself: Hug and affection from afar. We are thinking about you, cheering for you, wishing you lovely dream-filled sleep, and release from your anxiety.

  • heather

    Heather’s courage and your steadfastness bring tears to my eyes. Reading your stories and being able to identify with you two has helped me, too.

    You two are amazing for each other and for everyone.

    Be well, please.

  • ab

    Man, look at all these wonderful comments people have posted for you guys. May I be the 125th person to say that I hope nothing but the best for all of you, you’ll pull through this and look back at it someday knowing you did the right thing. Nothing but the best for you all!!!

  • Jenna

    I had terrible thoughts of killing my baby after I ADOPTED her. I had to get help and it was so hard. The shrink looked terrified when I told her my thoughts, closed her notebook, and said “I’m not even going to write this down. This could be subpoened someday.” Anyway, I got BETTAH!! So will you guys. You are so not alone. I’m posting this under a fake name. Just because I’m still so ashamed. Y’all are brave, don’t think otherwise for a second.

  • lissa

    Way to go!
    Sleep the good sleep.
    Stay the course, dooce.
    (Now there’s nowhere to go but up)
    you can do-eet.

  • Dawn

    Tears of joy that Heather was in the headspace to write to us. As an insomniac I know the relief when sleep comes, and I wish you much of it dooce, baby! Jon, you are surely beyond any doubt at this stage of where to turn if you need something, ANYTHING. Leta, well, quite simply, blow it out your ass and enjoy doing it! Chuck – watch the fort, boy!
    More prayers, more positive thoughts and constant love to you.
    More sweet dreams Heather!

  • Chris

    Jon and Dr. Dooce PHD,
    This is my first post to the either of you but I feel that the time is right to say hello. I have been reading both of your sites for a couple of years now and to find people that I would consider friends whom I ve never spoke a word to is unreal. I have gone through similar issues that Heather has been going through for the past few years and to be able to read that I am not a freak for the feelings that I have nor am I some outcast that has to run behind a wall and hide so people dont think I am nuts is a god send. Heather, you have been as much of a doctor to me with your writtings as any I have seen or spoke to about my feelings over the past 2 years. I pray for you daily that you one day wake up from a 12 hour nap and realize that you have just begun the first day to the rest of your glorious life without this disease.
    Thank you both for the laughter and the tears over the last 2 years of my life. Without your daily posts of a life so close to my own (all except the mormon stuff..sorry but I dont know a thing about the mormon religon! :-) ) I dont know where I would be at this point in time. Keep on keepin’ on Heather, Jon, Leta and Chuck, my internet friends in Utah.

    From your internet friend in Ohio,

  • yvonne

    I had sent Heather an email a while back after reading one of her posts. I wanted her to know that she was not alone in what she was going through, that I had been there, that I fear being there ever again, and to tell her that I think we are blessed to have such amazing, loving, supportive men by our sides in all of this. Her response to my email broke my heart because I could FEEL her fear, her confusion, her sickness. I prayed for her that night, I prayed for you and Leta as well.

    I will continue to pray, although, I’m not too sure that God will listen to me. Still, I’ll pray. Because I don’t know what else to do. I love Heather and I don’t even know her. But I want her to get better, I want her to be able to sleep at night, wake up in the morning happy and excited to face the day, rather than dreading it. I don’ t want her beautiful mind and heart to be a prisoner to a body and mind that isn’t working properly. I want her to be set free from the anxiety that has taken over her life. That will be my prayer.

  • Molly

    Hope all is well soon. Heather, I’m glad that you are getting the help you need, and I truely hope that you are feeling better soon.

  • nita

    thinking of you and yours. hard, and with admiration.

  • Mavis Appleby

    Hang in there, mate!!

    Here in Australia our enduring (yet unofficial) motto is that we never, EVER give up, no matter what; and I send you all of my never, EVER giving up no matter what Australian vibes. Take care and god speed.


  • cheryl

    I’m so glad that things are starting to improve for Heather! I was in a psych ward for a month (before the mangled care system really cracked down) and will never, ever forget the sense of helplessness I felt when that door slammed shut behind me. I admire both of you for your strength and love for each other, and Leta and Chuck because they’re so damn cute.
    Thank you for sharing all of this with “us” and god bless you all!

  • lee

    Thinking of you and Heather and Leta and wishing your little family unit peace, love and happiness.

    Heather…you’re one strong woman. I greatly admire you.

  • Jason

    I debated on joining the mass of well wishers. But, what the hey, here goes:

    I found on accident when searching for some Mormon stuff on Google. A week later I had read everything she had ever posted and found her hilarious and a pleasure to read. Through her I found DJ MASTER Blurb, some nut who I still don’t understand who does Textism, and his wife’s site too. I found Movable Type through Heather, and through her creativity was inspired to expand my own mind and learn enough CSS and XHTML to get some sites up of my own. It took a while, and I launched them in reverse order, but my domain site went live on Saturday. I do a daily comic strip based on my own child raising experiences, and it’s all thanks to the inspiration of a girl named dooce.

    My wife quickly got annoyed at me talking about the crazy things Dooce had written about on her site. Two weeks later, after she started reading we were laughing together.

    Tough time come and tough times go. You’ll be o.k. As my father-in-law says, “Be the Cow.” A cow doesn’t sit and worry whether or not it’s gonna rain or not, whether the wind will blow or not. It just moves along day after day enjoying the good days, and weathering the bad. Moooooving on…

    Having two kids, and another on the way I can understand where you are coming from in many ways. The good news is you do get better at it with each one, and it does get easier, and trust me…they only get more enjoyable…keeping in perspective that with increased joy can come increased decibles of screaming potential. This weekend my son who is 3, and I spent the afternoon together one on one. I was working on comics, and he was drawing at the table with me. Trust me when I say, you’ll have moments with Leta that will make ALL of this trial and every other to come…worth every single second.

    We wish you two all the best in the world and hope to hear from you again soon.

  • LisaC

    All good things to the Armstrongs, and thanks, Heather, for ignoring any “stigma” and keeping us informed.

    If you can stand a book recommendation, here is one: “Women’s Moods: What Every Woman Must Know About Hormones, the Brain, and Emotional Health” by Deborah Sichel, M.D. It helped me a lot with my own post-partum madness, and is very straightforward and not goddessy in any way.

    Love to you all.

  • Paige

    So glad to read the good update. You are all in my thoughts.

  • Mary

    I don’t have any stories of my own to share, or anything particularly enlightening to say, but I’m a huge fan of both Jon and Heather’s writings and I’m keeping your family in my thoughts. You’re both so brave and honest and open, which are all the things that make it possible for things to be okay. Best wishes to you all and thank you for sharing yourselves with us.

  • Lisa

    To Jon and Heather:

    I’ve been reading Heather’s blog for just a few months and Jon’s for just a few weeks, and yet the first thing that popped into my head when I woke up this morning was: I wonder how Heather is doing? I hope Jon and Leta are okay today…

    I’m sending you all the best vibes from San Francisco that I can muster! Be well and be happy.

  • elswhere

    Like Sheryl above, I sent an e-mail before reading your post. Maybe it’s a Seattle thing. Apologies.

    Basically I just wanted to say I’m a relatively new reader and am thinking of you both. Please tell Heather, keep taking care of herself. And you too.

  • DLG in Mich

    It’s true, Heather — we ARE sending you good vibes, prayers, positive energy, whatever you want to call it. I’m glad you’re feeling it and it helps. I’m so impressed that you had the strength to get the help you need. You and Jon are both very brave. Good luck to you and get better soon.

  • Lesley

    Well since when do the perfectly adjusted, never-have-a-problem people help anyone else? Never, that’s when. So when people like Heather write about what’s really happening and how life isn’t perfect, it’s a relief for other humans to read. So we know we’re not alone. I’m going through “the change” and can relate to hormonal influences on the psyche. Sometimes I just don’t know what to do with myself when I’m on the rollercoaster…it’s a ride I can’t always control. So I am entirely sympathetic.

  • goodsnake

    Jon, Leta, and Heather, I have been thinking about the two of you a lot lately. The whole blogging community feels like we know you and we go through the ups and downs with you. I hope you all know how much we all are out here hoping and praying for you everyday. We love you and support you. There is no harm Heather in sharing your illness with us. What you have is like having any other disease if gone untreated it can hurt you, and there is absolutely no shame in getting help. I admire you and look up to you more than most anyone.

    What I really appreciate is being able to tell my friend who suffers from severe depression about your site and know that she can see that others live through the same thing. Your openness inspires so many. Thank you, thank you!

  • Anna

    So, I’m not entirely sure what to write. I went to Dooce because I was going to email, but this is better. Excuse me if this comes out convuluted or cliched! I’ve never spoken to either one of you before, but you have both helped me immensely. When I felt my worst, the little things – like the words of someone I’ve never met – would always help me. Dooce and Blurbomat have always been there to help. I’m so glad you’re doing what feels right, Heather, and I hope you feel and get better very soon. You’re an amazing woman. I hope I grow up to be half the woman you are. Jon – I’m glad you’re doing okay too. You seem an awesome person. I’m glad you two have each other, and Leta and Chuck. I really care – e-care?- about you all! Hugs from England, and lots of good karma, positive thoughts, Tori Amos songs and stripey things.

  • Jordana

    Thanks for updating us, even during the rough time. I’m praying hard for you all!

  • Kerry S

    Big Hugs and prayers to Heather, Leta and you! Your family strength and will power truly amazes me and I know that you will get through this chapter in your lives.

    Congratulations on your nap Heather! I hope there are many more to come!

    Take care….best wishes from Toronto!

    Kerry xoxo

  • dollyllama

    What a horrible thing to have to endure. I am so sorry for both of you, but happily it sounds like things are getting better. I had PPD for a year and a half after having my first child (don’t know if this is what she has, but just saying it as my only relevant story), and after almost divorcing my husband and now that I am pregnant again I know I will never go through that again without proper medication. So, stigmas begone! I have only found out today, at the age of 32, that my mother has battled with depression and anxiety all her life. You know why she never said anything to me? Stigmas! Is this helpful to our children? NO! How much quicker might I have gone for help…in any case, my point is, you are doing the right thing, you have to convince the right people that you need the right help in order to get it. God bless all three of you (plus four-legged ones too!)

  • Dee


    I am very happy to read than things are improving for Heather. I trully hope that the docs find the source of the problem once and for all. I’ve been curious after reading dooce about the doctor finding out why the meds Heather was on were not working and the new ones are? If you ever get a chance please share with us. My cousing suffered with depression and anxiety for many years and her numerous meds never worked. She passed on in an accident a couple of years ago but I am extremely curious on the what if…..

    Hugs and prayers to you guys.


  • sarah

    As someone who “lost” her mother to depression and anxiety for a time — as someone who has been screamed at and cussed out by a disease…please let me say thank you for taking this step. It’s best for you and it’s best for Leta, and it just shows how much you value your family and relationship. You won’t ever regret this. My prayers are absolutely with you.

  • Leannder

    Thank you Jon and Heather for keeping us updated during this difficult time. I was so happy to read a new post today. I am glad that she is getting better help.. and SLEEP!!
    I don’t pray, but my thoughts are with you guys.. sending you all the good vibes I can..

  • anna jr.

    oh my.

    the amount of love that is out there and directed towards you is a thing to behold!

    i have my fingers (and toes) crossed for lots of good nights of sleep and many afternoons filled with long and drooling naps for all of you armstrongs for the rest of your days.

    and although i am not a religious person, and certainly more jewish than anything – i want to post a little prayer that i learned from a friend and that i sometimes find myself saying as i lie in bed at night.

    “good night dear jesus, the day is now through.
    thank you for guiding me and helping me too.
    i’m going to sleep now, please bless me this night,
    and keep looking down to make sure i’m all right.

    god bless everybody, AMEN!”

    the simultaneous breaking and mending my heart is doing for all of your wonderful family is quite an experience.

    keep us posted.

  • jilbur

    I am so very grateful that help and healing may be at hand for Heather and for your whole family. I wish you all peace, and think of you all often.

  • zchamu

    Jon, I am so glad to hear that this seems to be working. It must have been so painful to reach that decision, and yet it was 1000% the right one to make.

    Heather, we love you. I’m very thankful that you’re getting the help you need and that you’re starting to feel better.

    Sending virtual bacon sandwiches,

  • Missy

    You are good people, for loving each other so much, for bringing another precious person into the world to share your love, and for sharing your stories with numerous strangers who are touched by you both every day.

    Warm wishes are beamed from Washington, DC.

  • J.G.

    Had a moment yesterday where you both just suddenly came to mind and I was compelled to stop what I was doing and send all the positive energy that I could.

    I am certain things will improve – how could they not?! You are all loved by more people than will probably even take the time to leave you a comment! Isn’t that amazing?!

    May the universe shower you with healing and blessings on this journey.

  • Robin

    I add my voice to the many others… get well soon Heather, and hang in there, Jon!

  • Elle

    I am thinking of Heather and of you and Leta during this difficult time. Many sincere wishes and prayers that Heather find healing, peace and happiness.


  • QueenJulie

    Thank you so much for re-opening comments! I felt like e-mailing was just too intrusive, but I wanted to send you and Heather all my support. I’ve been following her blog for ages, and it was a total shock reading her announcement a few days ago. Hopefully it’ll help prove to lots of people that mental illness is just that–an illness that needs treatment like any other kind. I hope she’ll be home, healthier and happier, very soon. We miss her.

  • jenny

    wow, i found myself worried for heather while driving in the car today. i can’t believe i can grow to care so much for someone(s) that i probably won’t ever meet. but i do, so heather, jon & sweetie, leta, i am sending all my love and goodness straight to slc! get better soon, we love you.

  • Talia

    As someone who has been reading the blogs of both you and Heather a good few months now, I just wanted to say I’ve enjoyed reading every bit of writing to make it on my computer-screen. It cheers me up. It inspires me. It makes me laugh to a point I’ve never laughed in my life. So I wanted to wish you both well and say that I’m glad things are looking up!

    The best to the both of you!!

  • roawn

    i don’t think there is much I can add to the quality of all the comments up there, so i’ll just add to the quantity.

    i believe in you.

    i think no matter what, your honesty and trust and faith in each other will get you through anything.

    two big thumbs up for you.

  • Alessa

    Sending Heather some sleep vibes and get better vibes …

  • Alessa

    Sending Heather some sleep vibes and get better vibes …

  • Melis

    Props to you three for dealing with this and for letting us all be a part of your lives.

    My hub and I are keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers (and sending Jon a virtual gas mask for those beanie pants) and sending many a strong healing vibe to Heather in hopes that she will be able to return home to her gorgeous family very soon.

  • Biggest Apple

    Before I’ve even formulated my thoughts into what I’m going to write I know it’s going to sound a bit odd. I just sort of stumbled across your site this evening. I’ve read the post above and checked out Heather’s site to get an idea of what is going on. Obviously I could tell it was something serious and no joking matter, but as I read on and got a little history on the thing from Heather’s archives , the words, “it’s going to be alright” swept through me. It’s clear that Heather is surrounded by tremendous love and better yet she knows it. The affliction she is suffering from was (as far as I can tell) triggered from a place of love. This just means that it’s powerful but as corny as it sounds love is more powerful and won’t tolerate this for much longer. Let”it” go. There are bigger things that require your time and energy. You’re going to be fine. I say this not to be glb, but as a prayer.

  • D

    Wanting to get better is part of the secret. Love is the cherry on top. You’ve got it all.

  • Lauren

    Yeay!! Updates! Love ’em, love you guys too. Glad to hear about the nap. Need more good news.
    Sending warm, loving, funny thoughts to Utah.

  • Lauren

    Updates, I LOVE updates, I don’t know where that word went……..

  • Melle

    Good to hear steps forward are happening. Amazing, when you get to a certain depth, how something like a nap can be so huge. You are all going to be okay. Having lived through a time when I was largely impotent in helping a family member fight the demons (things got as bad as they can get without someone dying), I got really good at observing. Even from this distance, it’s obvious you all *know* what a good life is, and that’s what you *will* have, through your will and ours. We, the invisible multitude, will pray or cajole or roar triumphantly, as required. All the best.

  • Erin

    I’m sending lots of love and good juju and prayers your way. You’re in my prayers and thoughts.

  • j i m (kaya)

    Sending you both tons of love and positive energy. I wonder how this chapter will read in the book of your life, but you two seem to handle even the most intense scenarios (food-poisoning/airplane/screeching baby comes to mind) with grace.

    As I’m getting married in three weeks, it’s been wonderful to get to learn from and appreciate the ups and downs of your lives.

    Wishing you my best.

  • Maria

    I don’t really have anything different to say than what has already been said by all of the wonderful people before me. I am praying for your family, and wishing you all the peace and happiness you deserve.
    Jon- thank you so much for keeping us all posted, and for adding to the Dooce page. I think I can speak for all of your fans when I say that we appreciate you taking time out of this busy and stressful time to update perfect strangers. We love you!

  • punk-ass-bitch

    I’m so glad that she is doing well & getting some rest. Be sure that you do too! You are all in my thoughts…I’ve been in her same shoes (about 3 1/2 years sleep,eating like crap, & the wrong meds will make anyone nutty). I can just tell you from experience…it WILL get better and this too, shall pass. Be prepared for, and aware of, bumps in the road, they will be there, but as long as you both continue to be aware, and as willing, and as loving & caring as you both are & have been…those bumps will be avoided or barely felt at all.

    Hang in there & know that I’m praying for you guys. I’m so glad that Heather took the initiative on this & is getting great care there (I know of that hospital & have referred several friends there)

    and don’t forget to take care of yourself too. That’s an order :-)

  • Dave M

    Hi Heather and Jon and everybody-

    I just skipped right to the comments (#412!) and wanted to add a big “ME TOO!” I may be just another stranger but I am very happy for you three (uh, four, how could I forget the Former Congressman). You rock!

  • mecccii

    hey there–

    I just wanted to say that with everything going on right now, I think you guys are doing amazingly well. I hope (and keeping my fingers crossed …which makes typing hard but whatever) that it all works out.


  • Leslie

    Longtime lurker here…

    Peace, love, and godspeed from a friend.

  • Michelle

    Heather needs to write a book when she comes out of this. Only she could bring such bittersweetness and levity (of all things) to her experiences of the past few months.

    Heather, you are my superhero idol! You are going to be fine, girl! Get sleep–lots of sleep!

  • Emily

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so glad to hear that you all are doing so well

    Hugs, love, prayers, and many more wonderful naps, from MD.

  • Melissa

    I have found that any horrible situation or time in life can always be better as long as you are surrounded by love and support. Which from what I have seen you guys are in no short supply of. So happy thoughts to your family and I hope things continue to get better.

  • John

    My best wishes to all the Armstrongs, and thank you both for sharing your stories. My bout with depression wasn’t anywhere near Heather’s, but it was internet newsgroups that helped me more more than anything.

  • Micheline P.

    I know what you are going through. My father has bipolar disorder and had it for 20 something years before it was diagnosed. People treat him as though he has a contagious plague. No one EVER says, “Hey, I bet it’s soooo fun to have a mental or physical disease. I think I’ll put my order in for one.” You both have such a wonderful network with each other, Leta and your families. As long as under all the medication and analysis you still have love, you’ll have everthing. Take care of each other, always! MANY wonderful belssings to you.

  • Bron

    Hi Armstrong Gang

    You’re in my thoughts daily, and I’m so thankful you took the time to write to us all. This may be a personal journey, but damn it, we’re going to make sure if your family ever need ANYTHING that someone will always be there for you. Its not until you hit the ground until you realise how many hands there are out there to help you back up.

    Best wishes and lots of love to you and your family.

    Sleep well princess.

  • Sonja

    I hope you both realize that you have made an imprint on those who read you and that, although this connection has been one-sided, the care and concern being expressed is no less sincere. I wish I could offer more than my (non-Mormon) prayers and best wishes from my heart. Every kindness and goodness to you.

    Oh, I read that Krakauer book too. Fascinating.

  • Hannah

    I’m just another voice, but I needed to tell you how much the Blurbodoocery means to so many people. It’s strange to care so much for people you’ve never met – but we all genuinely do. There are so many people’s lives that you brighten, I hope we will help to brighten yours during this really difficult time. I wish there was something more I could do, but please know you are in my (and my fiance’s) thoughts and prayers. We hope Heather finds long term success with new treatment and care, and that you can embrace all the joy you two so deserve.

    Much love

  • Micheline P

    Oops, my BAD. Please forgive me, I didn’t segue way very well from one comment to the next. I certainly did not mean to imply that anyone was treating Heather like she had the plague. It’s awesome to see all the support she’s receiving and I certainly hope she receives all the amazing medical care from the bulldozer MD too! Much love, even though not so much tact! Forgive me!

  • April

    Jon –

    My thoughts, prayers and warm wishes to all of you. May you, Heather and Leta (and Chuck of course) be surrounded by love and may you find strength and solace during this difficult time.

    Sending a warm patch of south Florida sunshine your way.

  • Nancy

    well…there are so many comments I was debaiting to write something or not…One more can’t hurt:
    I wish I could type something to Heather to make her realize what she has…how much she means to so many people.

  • Veeg

    Y’all are so.fucking.lucky to have each other. Sending wishes and prayers and Good Thoughts to all of you — Jon, Heather, Leta, and Chuck.

  • Shanti

    What can I say that hasn’t already been said, 424 times?
    I’m a total lurker, but I’m wishing you all the best. You’re all going to be just fine.

  • dayna

    thank you both so much for being so open. sending you all the Internet Love you can handle…
    be well.

  • Danielle from Avon

    Heather, I was shocked to read the other day that you were headed to the hospital but I am happy you made this difficult but important decision and are able to get the rest, care and peace you need. So glad you have the cooler doc. Sweet dreams, fair dooce!

    Jon, have you thought of printing out these comments and bringing them to Heather? It will keep her busy for hours. You are a good man.

    Leta, try to remember that refried beans are yummy for you but stinky and messy for your dad!

  • Aliesha has made me laugh and brightened my day on so many occasions that I can’t even count the number. I hope that things continue to go well, and that Heather can get the right things to work for her. I am keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

    I have seen the output of refried beans fed to a baby, and you are definitely stronger than I!

  • Karen From Across the World

    Just read Heather’s entry, today. So glad that she is holding up very well. Regards to her and to the little one. How’s Chuck taking Heather’s absence though?

  • Dasha

    Lean on each other and take strength. Get well soon.

  • Rachel

    Who says the internet is filled with evil people? They’ve never been HERE! Email and posting comments are great, but can we have an address to mail cards for Heather to keep always and forever and to show others that the net is a really caring place. Heck, she can maybe make it into a book!

    So, can we get an address? p.o. box? a carrier pigeon? :)

  • Anna

    Hey, you guys have been in my thoughts since reading Heather’s post the other day. I hope things continue to get better and that Heather gets more and more rest. I think she’s amazing to be getting the help she needs and talking about it with all the rest of us. Thank you to both of you for that.

    Sending lots of love and peaceful thoughts,

  • andrea

    wow. I felt a clutch in my heart (not easy to hide at work) when I read Heather’s last post. But knew that she and you and Leta and Chuck need her to do this. And have the courage to. You’re all brillaint and brave (plus insightful, hilarious, and beautiful), and I, among many many others, thank you.

  • Kea

    My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  • Nicole

    Sending love and prayers in your general direction. You’ll all be better than good soon enough, guaranteed. Jon your doing a great job being there for her and Leta, your amazing. Heather – your an inspiration to everyone out there with an illness like this. Stay strong you two, your gonna make it threw this.

  • andrea

    and I mis-spelled brilliant, so I’m sorry.


  • momo

    your honesty frees up little bits in me, and i’m glad to hear things are at least somewhat better. heather and jon, i wish you all the time and peace and strenght you need for your journey ahead.

    you are both held in the hearts of many.

  • One Hand Typing

    The internet (and therefore, the universe, eh?) is watching over you in the best of ways. Be well, and know that in times when you don’t feel that you can carry on, we will be there to carry you. It’s the least that we can do in return for what your candor and humor have done in generating understanding of depression. No series of programs on 20/20 or Primetime could even come close. You have touched so many.

  • Josie

    Yet another lurker chiming in to say I’m thinking of all of you. Be well.

  • Tertia

    Pls send my best regards. thinking of all of you. Well done for being so brave and so honest.

  • Niamh

    Jon, Heather & Leta–You are stronger than you even know–just look at your ability to uplift so many strangers through the internet. You will overcome this, and until that time, I will send you all my love, support, prayers, good karma, and whatever else it takes to help you along the way.

  • the mighty jimbo

    you know i love you people – even if it is digitally. you have both been an inspiration for so long and for so many. i’m thinking that the infamous internet tattoo should have read “blurb” cause, seriously, you’ve been a near superhero through this.

    i have total faith that all of you will get through this, healthier, stronger, and happier. honest. i have no doubts.

    but about the refried beans. now, i don’t know a goddam thing about babies, but isn’t that like bolting a turbo charger onto a poop machine?

    sorry blurb. couldn’t resist a good poop joke.

    stay strong. thoughts and positive vibes to all of you from me and the rest of the socal chapter of the blurbodoocery fan club.

  • melissa

    Sending you warmest thoughts and prayers as you battle the demons together.

    Jon & Heather: you are my heroes.

  • Sonja

    I’ve been thinking of Heather so often, trying to send calming, healing vibes. May she finally have sweet dreams. Jon, you are taking such good care of your family. Thank you.

  • http://. Heidi

    About Heather’s comment about people asking why she is so open about this all…
    My psychology teacher said that if someone has a broken leg, no one wonders why they go to the hospital to get help, but if someone has a broken mind, for some reason you are supposed to stay quiet about it.
    There is still so much stigma around mental health and I think it’s really good that Heather is so open about it. It can even help other people in the same situation.

    My thoughts are with you.
    Thanks for your blogs.

  • Anja

    All this people, sending out so much love to people they have never met. You two burn through the screen!

    I’m so glad that Heather is feeling a little better. All the best for all of you from Copenhagen, Denmark.

  • Di

    You are both beautiful, inspiring, strong people with incredible resilience – you WILL get through this :)

    Sending you massive good vibes and karma and prayers and love and anything else that will help. Much love from Ireland.

  • kathy

    I’m putting this here because i can’t seem to find a way to leave comments on Heather’s site. I found her site through a friend and yours through her. Just want to send happy thoughts and hugs to both of you, and belly kisses (my son loves those) to Leta.

  • reality

    My best wishes and prayers go out you Heather, yourself and Leta. You have all been absolutely strong to go through this and Jon, I commend you for the love and understanding you’ve shown Heather. I can understand how hard that must be for all of you. Heather is an inspiration to me, someone who has similiar problems, and I thank her and all of you for that! It would be wonderful to have an address to send cards to, I think that would make her feel even better. Again, my best wishes, prayers and love :) You’re great people!

  • Gaynor

    Wish I could do more than just send thoughts and prayers, your family is an inspiration to mine I have laughed and cried with you.
    Lots of love and best wishes heading your way

  • ksea

    Just read Heather’s update, and YAY!!!! Yay for the nap and for the nice doctor! Blessings to you for all kinds of healing.

  • Alison #2

    Glad to see improvement and a Doc who can help our Dooce. Both of your sites have helped me though some rough times and I am estatic to see the support you two receive during your trials.

    Much love and good vibes to all of the Armstrongs!

  • Farley

    I seriously doubt you’ll see this post just because there are so many posts already. But I wanted to offer support nonetheless. I also am in the throws of depression now and — although functional — my life seems to be one numb activity after another. No matter if I am alone or amongst friends. Reading your site has gotten me to start making small changes toward a more positive direction. To find outlets and such. I donít know that I am ready for doctors or meds yet since they failed miserably in the past, but maybe one day in the not too distant future Iíll try again to find my bulldozer with an MD. Thanks for being so open about your family and your disease. It speaks to those of us who wouldnít otherwise listen.

  • piousbetty

    Would one more comment send an nth more positive thought your way? I hope so. Dooce has made this stanch anti-breeder actually consider having children of her own someday. Despite this very big down, the ups come through in your writing and make me reailze how happy you can be. Your big Internet world is here for you and needs you, misses you, and is holding good vibes hostage – just for you and your family.

  • KS

    So brave.

    Thinking of you.

  • mmms

    I think you both are very brave and I am sending you tons of good wishes.

  • Michele

    I adore both your webpages, your daughter and dog are adorable. You all deserve the best and that is for Heather to get better! I am sending you all my best wishes and good thoughts!

  • eddo

    Words are never enough- but right now I am scouring the globe for a miracle phrase that when read will cure all your problems. I feel that I am getting close- in the meantime I am praying… lots of prayer… Dear God, make Heather Better- Make Heather better, Make Heather better… Give Jon strength, and peace of mind, and hope, and love, and comfort… take care of little Leta while Momma’s away…

  • Jeanine

    Prayers and love from Cleveland, Ohio.

  • http://none Jeff From Canada

    Lots of love, hope and prayers, from the great white north.

  • Candice

    Hi Jon:

    I know you’re getting tons of best-wishes comments, but I thought I’d let you know that I went through something very similar to what Heather is going through right now, and I’m happy to say I not only came out of it in one piece, but so much happier and healthier. I can say in all seriousness I am the happiest I’ve ever been in my life, but it took me bottoming out, facing my (serious) depression, checking myself in to the local crazy house (ha ha) and getting help from people who really cared and could give it to me.

    I can tell from Dooce that Heather really wants to get better ó for herself, you and for Leta. That’s the key; you’ve gotta want it, and I think she’s got the best motivation anyone could have. She a strong lady, no doubt, and you’ll all make it through fine. Best of luck, and you’re doing a wonderful job supprting her (FYI).

  • Beth

    Thanks for the update – I’ve been sending kick ass party vibes to all three of you since Thursday. I’ll keep it up. :)

  • beachgal

    I am so relieved to hear that Heather is feeling better, even if it’s only a little. I doubt I have anything to say that hasn’t already been said, but please know I’m thinking about you and wishing you a speedy, speedy recovery. Your blog gives so much to so many people, and we all hope you get better soon.

  • Jenn

    Like many of your readers, I found this site through It’s absolutely amazing how much you can care about people you only know through their blogs. I admire and appreciate your and Heather’s candor and honesty about everything you are going through.

    My thoughts and prayers are with both of you. I can’t begin to understand what Heather is going through, but I do understand what is like to live with someone with depression and anxiety problems. My husband is bipolar/manic-depressive and schizophrenic. I know how hard it can be to live with that, and how hard it can sometimes be to be supportive and helpful. I also know how much having a child in your life can help. Our 2-year-old son has gotten us through many, many difficult times. My heart goes out to you and I wish the best for you, Heather, Leta and Chuck.

  • Michelle

    D.C. sends love, kisses and hugs to the Armstrong clan!

  • susannah

    was hoping to check in and find an update – so glad to hear that there is a glimmer of hope and that sleep has occurred. still sending the good thoughts your way. hope your family is home soon!

  • jennifurious

    Warm wishes and yes, even prayers from Texas. Please let us know if there is anything, other than the positive vibes, that we can send you or do for you. You’re in our thoughts, Armstrongs.

  • Sky

    NH sends love and support to the entire family! You have been a part of my daily read and I have fallen in love with your whole family. Good luck to all, hope you’re together again soon!

  • Jodi-no-blog

    Best wishes and tons of happy, drool filled sleep vibes coming your way from Connecticut.

    Your trio plus Chuck ROCKS! Can’t wait until you are all together again.

  • Beth

    Warm wishes from Maine.

  • beanie

    Thanks for the update. You guys are so inspiring. Best wishes for your whole family, I’m praying for you. Yes, damn it, praying! Get well.

    Feed the kid a whole friggin’ BURRITO if she’ll eat it, food is good for kids.

  • christina

    although not as severe, i battled depression in college (i couldn’t STOP sleeping). now i am going back to school – today – for the first time in three years and all those old fears creep up….if heather can do this, i can do what i have to do, too.
    good luck and god bless.

  • annakay

    i too am so happy to know that there is hope and a kickass doc and napping. i am so happy to be a part of your huge array of internet friends and to “know” a family so strong & devoted as the Armstrongs. the prayers and loving thoughts will keep coming your way. best of everything to you all!

  • Tracy

    You guys are in my thoughts. Be well.

  • http://n/a Lis

    To sleep, perchance to dream. Wishing big beautiful healing dreams for you three! Thank you for sharing. Thank heavens for your strength.

  • Angela

    You are all in my thoughts. You are such a strong family, and I wish you nothing but the best. Here’s to a lasting recovery and many, many naps.

  • wealhtheow

    Prayers going out to you guys from DC…

    Mi shebeirach avoteinu míkor habíracha l’imoteinu
    May the source of strength who blessed the ones before us
    Help us find the courage to make our lives a blessing
    And let us say: Amen.

    Mi shebeirach imoteinu míkor habíracha l’avoteinu
    Bless those in need of healing with rífua shíleima
    The renewal of body, the renewal of spirit
    And let us say: Amen

  • redhead

    you WILL get through this. thank you for keeping us all updated! prayers for all of you from tulsa, oklahoma.

  • kat

    ditto all the best wishes and admiration. you will all get through this because you are in it together. wishing you all health and rest. keeping leta’s needs for a healthy mom first—you are going to make it because you care about all the right stuff. much respect, k

  • http://none Andrea

    Will you guys really plow through 480 comments before checking e-mail??? I hope so, because I’m taking you at your word. I just got back online today after taking several days off, and read the news. I’m one of the ones who has e-mailed Heather telling her about my own struggles with post-partum depression. Many, many blessings to all three of you, and prayers that the doctors will finally find something to give Heather some relief from the anxiety (oh, the anxiety…I remember it all too well, and am already anxious worrying about the anxiety that may come with this next one comes along in December…)

  • Miriam

    What they said.
    Thinking of you!

  • ajd

    Sometimes life feels like such a mess but then you look back and realize you wouldn’t or couldn’t have had it any other way. There is a reason things happen the way they do and even if we can’t understand in the moment, or sometimes even in retrospect, we have to trust that we are doing what is best for ourselves and our loved ones. Just don’t beat your head in trying to much:-) That’s what can wear your soul down. Much love, hope and wishes for peace and happiness from Montreal to all the Armstrongs.

    That is ArmSTRONGs, lest you forget:-)

  • Q

    your authenticity is inspiring to me. real people, real love, real problems… real life. The more I read both of your entries, the more I feel connected to the world and am reminded that we’re all not so different after all.
    ~ That’s a miraculous gift.

    Perhaps there are jewels to be mined out of this dark cavern, one of which is shining a light on the incredible beauty and pain that we sometimes experience by being alive.


  • Kim

    I’ve been thinking of you guys all weekend and just wanting and wishing all the best for you…happiness and healing. I know it’s there for you.

  • another heather

    all my best wishes and support to you both (and frogbaby, too).

  • Jennifer

    i have been following this time in your life prayerfully, mostly because i have experienced depression and maybe have at least a little glimpse of how you feel. all i can say is that in the last year or two i am really coming out of a dark place where i thought there was no end in sight. now i see there is hope, there is even more than hope.. there is life. My hope had been deferred so long it had made my heart sick, but the seasons are changing i guess. i want the same for you heather. i know you don’t know me, but i do i desire to see you come out of this victoriously. it makes me happy that you have such a faithful husband that will endure because of his love.

    yours, jen

  • Lisa

    I commend Heather for having the stones to do something like this. I wish all of you well and you’ll be in my prayers!

  • kim

    It amazes me that in times of such darkness you and dooce have been there to post, never letting your masses of faithful readers down.

    Now, it’s our turn. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I only hope that our comments and e-mails can lift her up as much as she has lifted up others with her words of candor, struggle, wit and love.

    We’re all pulling for you.

  • n.o.s.

    so glad things are looking up; hoping for all the best and sending up a prayer as well.

  • Illy G

    Jon, not every man would stand by his wife with such understanding and commitment. Your karma is going to knock you off your feet some day. We all know that Heather is a fantastic woman online, she must be one hell of a gal in real life. I look up to your relationship and only hope that mine can be like that someday.

    As the Gs say, Props.

  • Michael

    Maybe we can contribute to getting you a P.O box and then we can unleash a flood of physical mail love as well. I love sending postcards to people and while I’ve been semi-stalkerish enough to do the cursory searches for you all, I won’t pay for the info and know that for you all it’s a freaky enterprise which is why I suggest the P.O. box.

    Wishing you all well.

  • Jennifer

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • Jeannette

    Best to you, Heather, Jon, Leta, and Congressman Chuckles. As a mother of two young children, I can empathize with some of Heather’s anxieties and I extend my best wishes and hopes for her recovery.

  • Robin

    Thank you for sharing your experience. The public doesn’t give depression the respect it deserves. Please keep writing – the integrity you illustrate with your writing will help others.

  • Daniel

    When I was in the depths of my depression, my therapist told me that having a support system of friends around me was as essential as therapy and meds. It would appear that the 495 entries above this one comprise The Mother of All Support Systems.

    If nothing else, the unanimity of what has been written here is something that should help you keep your chin up at what is naturally an impossibly difficult time for you.

    I’m not a religious person, but in my own way, as a man with a wife and small kids like you, I’m saying a little prayer that you and yours feel the love, hope and empathy that are pouring from my soul for you.

  • Lauri

    Best wishes, you guys can weather anything.

    Hang in there.

  • rosebaby

    like the rest of the known internet world, i’m thinking of you both, and have been. it’s truly wonderful to be able to feel the love between you two several states away. that’s key – there is loving support an arms distance away, and there are a gagilion people out here who care a great deal as well. but also you are doing something about it, which is so much of the battle.

    i wish you healing and sleep, i wish your doctor wisdom and clarity to care for you, and i know that leta will understand one day what absolutely amazing parents she has.


  • brenda # ?

    see above..

    *good vibes*

  • Dawn

    Add me to the list of admiring readers that wish you guys strength and happiness and sleep. Love on y’all.

  • seannarae

    i have my own family and my own 15-month old and my own host & gaggle of issues that make me either smile or sweat. But for the last week, i seem to have thought about little else but you and heather and the wee leta.

    it is foreign for me to either take-in so much empathy for a family i’ve never met *OR* express it to a public forum … regardless of how warm & fuzzy both of you groups are to me.

    needless to say, i’m here, and the mic is on. so, every good thing. you two deserve a slathering from the Good Vibe Massive. I will trully enjoy reading about all of that when your penduluum swings the other way.

    seannarae & baby jude….

  • Julianne Renowden

    I know that many of us readers are not even close to you, geographically, but if there’s anything any of us can do, please let us know.

    Having been there myself, I wish you and Heather wholeheartedly best wishes. Please be gentle with your own selves.

  • Jen

    Best wishes to the whole family in this challenging time. You WILL surmount this obstacle. Good luck, you are in my thoughts.

  • Will Martin

    I have been reading Heather’s site now for about 3 months. The person whose job I took over has a wife who was also fired for her blog (sarcastic journalist) and I stumbled upon dooce through that whole thing. I has absolutely become inebriated with and the two (three now) of you are a great inspiration for me. You are just old enough to show me what I should be doing a couple years from now. I will pray for Heather, and I know your strong family will come out stronger in the end. With love,


  • Courtney

    Ijust read both yours and heathers posts and though you are hudreds of miles away and i don’t evenreally know you, i am sitting her sobbing. heart hurting sobbing. hurting for heather, hurting for you, but strangly it is happy for Leta, happy because her parents are so amazing. I cannot imagine the toll that this is taking on you. Iknow that it was difficult when my mom had to go through the same thing, except my sister and i were 14 and 12, old enough to know this was so wrong. I remember my dad, and I remember going to visit my mom but we couldn’t because she had a bad day.I remembergoing to leave and looking up at the window and seeing her standing there crying. I am so grateful that Leta is too young to remember this.

    I pray for you daily now.

  • Jamie

    Much love to all 3 of you (and Chuck, too). You’re being very brave and I’m happy to see that you have so much support – even from a mass of people you don’t know. I’ve been reading Heather’s posts for about a year now, and she never fails to effect me, with laughter or heartache. The heartache is the one that sticks throughout the day – I’m praying for you Heather and wishing you the very very best – all three of you.

  • http://Idonthaveone... bryan

    I’m a mom with a history of depression, and I know how hard it is to take care of mom. Leta will read this one day and be amazed at how much her mom and dad were willing to go through to give her that gift–a happy mom.

  • Michael

    I think that it takes great strength to get help when you need it. Especially when that help is stigmatized, when the same head that has the disease is the one with the courage to see through it all and act, when it’s all done for the sake of others. Keep fighting, Heather. This world needs selfs like you. And Jon, whatever you do, don’t blame yourself one bit. Hang in there.

  • Elisa

    You can do it, Heather! I have faith in you. :)

  • Laura D

    Both of you are amazing and your daughter will grow up as a reflection of your strength, your creativity and your strong spirit. I feel for Heather in more ways than I can count. The fact that she got help before something went wrong means sheís got one up on meÖ on April 23rd I was hospitalized for a week because I quietly tolerated the ministrations of an inept physician and went under-medicated for severe chronic pain for FIVE YEARS. This resulted in my blowing out my entire nervous system. Not only did I spend that so fun week in the hospital, I was bedridden at home for 10 weeks and have only begun to slowly put my life back together. At one point I couldnít lift one of my legs, couldnít sleep, couldnít eat, couldnít cry, couldnít live.

    Heather dear, you are an inspiration to me. Iíve always dealt with depression (and not so well I might add) and this illness has almost pushed me over the edge (Iíve been told it will take a year for me to fully recover). I am a wife and a mother of two and constantly get down on myself for not being normal like everyone elseÖ it never occurred to me to just be honest with myself, my family and my friends about what Iím going through and how much help I need ñ even if its just an extra hug here and there.

    You have done this and you have done it well. Your daughter and your husband are truly blessed to have such a powerful woman in their presence.

    Bless your sweet face (and you too Jon and the lovely Leta).

    With much love and prayers and promises of home baked cookies of needed,

  • Wicked H

    Continued good thoughts and many,many prayers for Heather, Jon, Leta and Chuck. Stigmas belong to those who aren’t brave enough to seek help for a probelm. Thank goodness you have the bravery and strength to want to get help and be better. Anyone can be in denial. It takes an extremely strong person to ask for and receive help. Never, let anyone tell you or make you feel any other way. You are a Super Woman in so many ways Heather. We, the Internet, are all behind you.

    My best wishes!

  • Charlotte

    I started reading dooce while Heather was pregnant (we had our first in Jan), and found your site by way of hers. I much enjoy both and read daily. I’ve had a lifelong struggle with depression and anxiety issues, including ppd. I applaud Heather for being so courageous – not only for seeking the help she needs, but sharing her struggle with all of us – and you for being the rock she needs to lean on.

    You all will be in my prayers.

  • Amy

    Hi- Iíve been reading both your blog and dooce for over 2 years now and have never commented before. But after reading through Heatherís battle with depression over the past few months, I feel like I have to say something- even though Iím sure it sounds like a broken record by now.

    Like the hundreds of people above me, I am amazed at the strength, honesty, bravery and humor you both display in the face of what Iím sure seems like an insurmountable obstacle. The love you have for each other, and your Leta, is evident in the steps youíre taking to make sure you are around for a long time to come. Iím so thankful to read both your posts that things are on the mend, and I hope they only get better.

    Iím sending you lots of random Internet stranger love across the miles- I hope it helps a little. Thanks for letting us all into your lives.

  • MissK

    This world of the interweb is a strange one – where, at least I, are allowed to feel like I know your beautiful little family. For that I thank you.
    You are both incredibly strong people to take the hard road…and my thoughts & prayers are with you both.

  • Wendy

    Dear Jon and Heather,
    De-lurking here to join the throng. I too suffered thru depression after the birth of my first child. My struggle was not as severe as Heathers is but was bad enough. The stress/anxiety of having a baby is truly overwhelming.. I felt the weight of my new responibility crushing me..I envisioned horrible fates for my infant son and carried the burden of protecting him FROM EVERYTHING all the time. I worried myself sick. The trick is to find the right drugs, the right way to meditate, the right support system and then breathe/relax. It’s a long journey Heather but you’ve already taken steps on the right path. We here in Vancouver,BC wish you and Jon peaceful sleep and anxiety-free days. Jon; your support for Heather is inspirational and will make the difference in her recovery!!
    Sending love, support and lots of REM’s

  • http://donthaveone Clay

    I’m so glad Heather got some sleep. I too battled with PPD after my son, now 8 mos, was born. I would not have made it out of the pit I was in without my husband (and therapy and some meds). Just know you’re really helping so much, Jon. My prayers and positivity are moving from Ohio to Utah.

    P.S. — 8 mos old son has had refries (as I call them) and loooves them.

  • Erika

    You guys are in my heart and mind. You two love eachother so much it’s great-I hope Heather gets back to where she was and better! She is such a great mom, wife and friend…

    Take care all of you! Thanks for the update!

  • Brittney

    Good luck, and speedy healing to Heather.

  • Ash

    I found Heather’s site just as I was thinking of putting myself in the hospital for depression. All I can say is thank you, for what you’ll never know. I hope to find a hospital as good as the one she’s found.

    Couldn’t list my URL b/c it had “questionable content in the title”. Listed hubby’s instead.

  • Mare

    Thinking of the whole family – You will all come through this – A sister of mine suffered severe depression for many years so I do have an idea of what you and your family is experiencing.

    Hang tight together – That is where the best support can and will come from.

    DJ Blurb – Man, you are truly an amzing guy.

    Doochay – You ROCK girl – Your site single handedly has kept me sane more times than I can to count.

    Leta – Kiddo, you have the bestest parents a gal could ask for.

    The Dog – He’s gorgeous, what else can I say?!!

    Thinking of you ALL !!!!

  • Amy

    Hang in there. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

  • elizabeth

    long time reader (admittedly of dooce more than blurbomat, but I hope that means you won’t immediately delete this) first time commenter

    I respect and admire you both so much. It takes some serious balls to admit that you need help and actually get. You (plural) realized the importance of mental sanity to the point of putting it first which is very, very brave. That is healthier than most people I know.

    Take care of yourselfs.

    As for the beans…. if you’re willing to brave the diapers then bean-away.


  • Colleen S.

    I have drawn so much hope and strength from you two and your genuineness and willingness to share with us all. Am hoping you are able to feel our support and love and true gratitude and draw on it – for what it’s worth.

    Please feel the love!

  • ani

    I emailed before but as your hubby suggested I shall leave a comment. I am glad to read you are doing better!!! And mmmmmmmm refried beans yum yum yum!!!

  • robin

    Isn’t it funny how close you feel to your Internet friends? Even the ones that have *no idea* who you are? Anyway I’m a long-time reader (of Dooce, mostly, but Blurbomat too!), wishing I could do more for your family than just wishing you peace and joy, but that’s all I can do, and I’m wishing away. Take care y’all.

  • emily

    You are your family our in my thoughts.

    Both your and Doocs’s websites, have helped me thru some down times, and kept me laughing thru the good.
    I respect and admire you both for explaining all this to your Internet friends. I wish there was something I could do for you all, I will keep you in my thoughts.

  • Matt

    I can only begin to imagine what this must be like for Heather and yourself, as well as those close to you. A lot of people are here for you all :o)

  • RT

    Just another well-wisher here to wish you well. I’ve prayed for you and will continue to remember you that way. Take care.

  • Elizabeth Malcolmson

    All of you are in my thoughts and prayers. I have a friend who just spent 2 1/2 weeks in a psych ward after trying to quit her medications cold turkey (without consulting any one first as to whether or not that was a good idea)… These are tough, tough times, but it sounds like you’ve been given some real reason for optimism. And that’s a quality that comes through from Heather all through her blog… Occasional insights into how she’s really feeling, but the pervasive tone has always been one of such incredible joy and appreciation for every aspect of life. So here’s hoping her doctors find a way to release the “real” Heather — the one who embodies optimism, irreverence and joy (was there ever any one who loved their husband, child and dog more?) for such a huge Internet family.

  • Casey

    Good Luck guys! All my good thoughts and hope are with you right now. I know the fight is a hard one but ya’ll are awsome and I have no doubt you will conquer this too.

  • Kristy

    If Heather had asthma and sought help to breath there are very few who would ever question that. Nor would anyone ever say “it’s all in her head” as many have said to me about my own struggles. This aspect of the world boggles my mind. That we can get a shot for pain, that’s ok. We can fix brokern bones, widely accepted. But seek help with the mind’s own undoing’s and this is sometimes scoffed at. It’s so very sad in this day and age. I wish you and your family only the best as I know how this affects the entire family. Kudo’s to both you and your wife for openly discussing what is often unfairly taboo.

  • Cynthia

    Thanks for being so brave and honest in your frontal assault on fighting Heather’s anxiety and sleeplessness. Yell as loud and as long as you have to ensure she gets the right care. Prayers, peace and long, restful days and nights for you three.

  • Cassie

    Hang in there, Jon! Both you and Heather make an excellent team and will most definitely be able to pull through this together…

    You two are doing all the right things in tackling this and in the end, everything should turn out well.

    All three of you are definitely in my thoughts and have been for the past few days…

    Good Luck!

  • jean

    Heather is so talented and bright. I hope she hangs in there and gets better quickly. I so look forward to reading her site. I admire her for being so honest about what she is going through. She is very brave and if by sharing her experience she helps anyone else going through the same thing, then blessings will come back around to her many times over. Thanks Heather for all the laughs. Feel better.

  • Aubrey

    I think you guys are some of the neatest people I’ve never met. Having gone through my own recent experiences PPD (though nowhere near what you are going through), I can sympathize. You are in my thoughts and I hope you are back home sucking your daughter’s face soon.

  • Darren

    In January my wife and I experienced one of those life-changing tragedies that you think only happens to people on the Lifetime Network, the type that makes you not only question the existence of a just God but consider the possibility of a malicious, hateful one. After reading the “Heather, Interrupted” post at Dooce, I found myself praying for her — something I haven’t done too much of in the last seven months. I hope it helps. Really. And I wish you both the very best.

  • Jill

    I love you guys. You’re in my thoughts.

  • Kerri

    Hang in there, Jon and Heather. It must be tough, but you are great people and you deserve a better life together. I am thinking about all three of you and sending you my love.

  • Lisa

    Working on pushing things towards 1000 comments. I just wanted to add my prayers for this journey. I am happy that the professionals seem to be making some progress in helping Heather. Hopefully the strength of friends, family, and the lurkers out there like me will help you in dark times.

  • HazelEyedPisces

    I am sending white light and good vibes to you Jon, Heather, Leta and Chuck. A close friend once told me, “Remember, asking for help when you need it is a sign of strength, not weakness. And bravery is not the absence of fear, but moving forward in the face of it.” We love you guys!!

  • sarah

    canada loves dooce and family and is sending you all strength and support.

  • Jen

    Sending lots of love and strength to all three of you. I can’t imagine what Heather’s going through, but I can put myself in your shoes, Jon, having watched my wife struggle her way out of an eating disorder and depression that threatened to destroy her. It’s awful to suffer that way and to watch the person you love in agony and not be able to fix it. I’m so glad for you all that Heather has the strength and courage to seek treatment and I hope it works the wonders I know it can. You are a wonderful family and both of us get a lot of entertainment and inspiration from your blogs and your gorgeous daughter. Hang in there and know that we’re pulling for you.

  • Michele

    Your courage in the face of fear makes you real, and that is something you don’t get from the internet much. I’m sure that with you opening up it will make it possible for others to do so. I’ve prayed for your family, and for Jons nose to suddenly become stuffed when changing diapers.

    I’ve got your back guys.

  • bdk&e

    Jon, Heather, Chuck, Leta. HELP! This is my only way of contacting you. Maybe I should have posted on one of the whore pages. Wait. Damn it, I have a phone. But if I call, I fear that when I hear your friendly voices I may just burst into heavy whaling. Anyway, trapped in Oregon We are. We are so tired of traveling. What a Big Ordeal! I’ll tell you when we get home. I am using a public computer and can’t get on my lap top. We miss you guys. Please give Heather a hug from us. And of course K & E have water waiting at our house for Chuck as E says, “He licks it with his tongue.” We’ll hopefully see you sooner than expected .

  • sprizee

    Maybe Dooce just needs some more cowbell? I kid, I kid. Best of luck. Let her know that The Internet is anxiously awaiting more brillant, charming, funny, witty posts because damn, even after all this, that girl can still write like nobody’s business.

  • Kate

    I only started looking at the post before ‘Heather, Interrupted’, when a friend’s blog admired her design. I wasted literally days at work last week wandering through both of your sites.
    And from last Thursday on I’ve been thinking about your family more often than I think about most things that I don’t physically encounter in the course of a day, a week even!

    I was invested, I was concerned, I am hoping and pulling for the best.

    Thanks for living, loving and sharing it all with us, and giving us a shining example of the richness that so evidently fills your lives, may we all be so blessed.

    Now, nobody said living a rich life didn’t have it’s fair share of ups and downs, and you guys are right in the middle of a pretty big dip. But the bond between you is honestly inspiring and the massive strength you’ve shown in absolutely addressing the cause of the dip is extraordinary. For all the reasons everyone else has already noted, most people don’t take the steps necessary to address this kind of problem until it’s too late, or too hard, or it’s left too big of a scar.

    You guys are so far ahead of the game! Remember that when the going gets tough. Remember us, your internet devotees, and how much we love you all! Remember each and every finger and toe on that wonderful thing called Leta, then get lost in admiring those 20 things and forget whatever it was that was bothering you before. I know you’ll get there. It surprises me to be so completely sure that you will get to that point again when I didn’t even know of your existence a week ago! I hope it pleasantly surprises you too.

    Much love!

  • Libby

    So glad to hear you three are having some good things happen! Naps! Yeah!!! I read dooce’s site, a serious devotee for years, but seldom poster. You two are really inspiring. I wish you all the best.

    Kudos to Dooce and you for being so open and honest about all of this. As someone who is finally getting my meds dialed in to cope with anxiety and depression, I have to say – it gets better. I’m glad she’s getting the attention she needs to figure it out, and that she has a physician that understands her and gets what she needs. That’s such a relief when you find competence in a doctor that at that moment in time can make or break your world.

    It took me a while to get the combination of meds right. It was a frustrating enterprise as I tried things that at times REALLY didn’t work and battled constant insomnia. I don’t know remotely all that she’s going through, but just an inkling is enough to make the empathy flow. But I feel amazing now. I really do. I have energy and life – and I wish this for Dooce and for you and Leta.

    I have just a feeling you all will make it through this, and come out the other side stronger and happier. You two are so creative, intelligent and talented. You all brighten the world with your existence. I hope that all of the good you’ve shared with us comes back at you tenfold at this time when you need it most.

    In my thoughts and much love.

  • Lauren

    Yes, me too! I know you are going to be fine! Such wonderful, talented, creative and loving people you are; blessed with special gifts. My thoughts, along with all these others, are with you. Thank you.

  • Lori

    I’m not a particularly religious person, but as I have proof that prayer works (namely, size 36C boobs and size 7 1/2 feet which have no precedent among the women in my family), I have been praying for dooce in particular and the Armstrong family in general. I suspect my prayers are just a drop in the bucket, but I’ll continue them in case that drop is the one that makes all the difference.

  • Kelley

    Bless you Armstrongs. From another total stranger: you are two of my favorite internet destinations and my day just isn’t the same when I can’t check in. Look at all this internet love! I hope it all helps to heal Heather soon.

  • kat

    Hi, a Dooce message from a, “long time listener, first time caller” as they say. I just got done reading Heather’s unlocked entry and i just wanted to say thank you, thank you, thank you so much. For your courage (to seek treatment and also to share it). For your humor, for just being a wonderful person (as far as one over the internet can tell) who happens to be going through what sounds like a terrible period.

    Your passage, the part that about your psychiartrist, was beautiful, had me tearing up.
    “I did my best to impress him, to make him believe that underneath the Crazie is a solid individual because I so desperately wanted to be unlocked.”
    Oh god, Heather, I’m going through a similar awful period in my life, and when I read this I just started to cry because you described so perfectly. That sense of relief you feel that you maybe are a normal person, and you just happen to have this sickness that’s making you feel terrible — temporarily.

    I don’t want to sound overly cheesy, but I just want you to know the postive power that your words are having, even while you go through the horribleness.

    Thank you. I wish you everything wonderful. and thanks to Jon for posting.
    Cheers! (I mean it)

  • pj

    Dear Jon

    You and Heather and Leta are in my thoughts. And though my first thought was “Oh no, poor Dooce”, my second thought was “What can I do to make this better?” Sometimes we feel helpless in these situations, but my next thought was “Maybe I should send her one of those fancy coconut cakes they write about in the New York Times.”

    WOULD she like a giant coconut cake? You can see how rational I am. I mean, it’s not as if the thing is composed of Rice Krispie treats. Let me know if the answer is yes. I’m composing a long rambling email to Heather but just thought I’d let you know.

    Supportive and good thoughts flowing your way


  • wee

    when I think of Heather (as I do more than is probably healthy), I think of a fierce warrior, face streaked with war paint, armed to the teeth with a caustic brand of humour all her own and I have no doubt she will defeat this vile thing that is plaguing her. battle on, Warrior Woman. You can beat this thing.

  • Ilsa

    I’ve been following for three years or so. Thank you for sharing your life, it makes the internet a less lonely place. :) I am thankful also that you have the strength and courage to demand help when you can’t continue on your own. And that you should be lucky enough to have found a true partner in life. Sweet Dream.

  • Missy

    Your family has been in my thoughts and prayers, Heather especially.
    You are inspiring and humbling to me!

  • Adam

    On and off reader of Dooce and I just started reading Blurbomat. It made me so happy to read Heather is starting to feel better. Best of luck with everything, I know you guys’ll get through this.

  • Kristina

    Heather, we love you.

    And we’re so proud of you.

  • Holly

    You’ve heard it a million times, but we are praying for you. Unbeknownst to you, you’ve been a tremendous impact in our lives and because of you, we see that having a family is a beautiful thing – and we will be trying soon. Your ability to capture the simplest things -just life in general – and to make them so damn funny is great. Thank you for the laughs, for the realism and for you. Love from Chicago.

  • christine

    yoga. yoga.
    yoga ?
    benefits the mind as much as the body~

    I read dooce everyday. I want dooce back., and feeling great. love to the armstrongs. you guys put the arm in strong. feel better heather!!

  • StacerP

    From someone who hangs on every word the two of you write but never has the guts to comment… this may not sound as clever or witty as something you might say, but it’s totally sincere – my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You WILL get through this.

  • Kar

    I’m just one of the hundreds of strangers who have taken up with Dooce for her wonderful writing, and now am a Blurbomat follower. She may remember me as the one who claims to have virtually adopted you all (because I have a tiny family!)… I just wanted to say that I’m checking every day to see how she’s doing, and firmly believe in her and you all as a family that you will all come out on top. There’s too much love there for anything else to happen. Take care, and I can’t wait to see Dooce back and posting and happy! If I could somehow be more helpful, I would!!

  • Kar

    My post got cut off. What I really said was “…tiny family!). I just wanted to let you that I’ve been checking ever day to see how Dooce is doing and that I’m confident that you will all come out on top because there is too much love in your family for anything else to happen. I can’t wait to see Dooce back and posting. Take care! If I could somehow be more helpful, I would… And, of course, thanks for sharing your life with all of us–it’s a privilege.

  • kar

    I give up (with the posting). Trust me, I said some nice things!

  • Marie

    Best of luck to you and your family!!:)

  • Lisa

    A shout out from Baltimore. No reason to cheer for the Orioles so we’ll cheer for the Armstrongs instead.

    Oddly enough, in a world full of so much shittiness right now, Heather’s story has renewed my faith a bit. Just when you think people don’t care anymore, I get to be part of a list of 557 people who do care about a virtual stranger (or it is a “virtual friend”?).

    Heather – get some sleep and get better. There isn’t anyone stronger than someone that acknowledges that they need help AND then actually goes and gets it. Deepest admiration for you.

    Jon – you have a twin here in Baltimore – he’s my husband. I see a lot of similarities between Heather and myself (unfortunately not the charm, wit and height) but even more between you and my husband. Don’t know how I got so lucky but I sure am glad that Heather drew the same lucky hand.

    I don’t know about you but my husband and I cannot keep ourselves from laughing when our 2.5 year old son farts. So, I say, keep feeding Leta those refried beans and let yourself smile and laugh a bit. You all deserve it.

  • Franny Oxford

    Heather Armstrong I kiss you. Thank you so much for getting help. Jon Armstrong I kiss you too. Thank you so much for helping. Your family is a perfect gift to all of us, and your honesty is beyond courage. You honor the Internet with your presence, both of you. And you have the luckiest baby in the Whole Wide World.

  • Robert

    A Dooce is worth a thousand insta-pundits. I’d do a little dance at the Blurbomat any day. Imagine a search engine that can’t ad-sense the difference between *love* and f?cking … and you realize right away why what Heather and Jon do is so dear. Best of luck, and see you on the flip side.

  • Very Mom

    I’m thrilled to hear there is progress, and thank you both for being brave and sharing it all with us. It gives a person reason to hope.


  • Erica

    Dear Leta,

    You are a very lucky little girl to have such strong, loving parents, who are also quite funny. Please bear this in mind when you are thirteen and tempted to date a Republican just to torment your folks.

    Tell your mama that we are sending her the best thoughts and wishes we can.

  • trish

    sending hugs and prayers!

  • Super Turtle Girl

    Hey Leta–

    Refried beans are so yummy aren’t they? Wait until we are old enough for chips and salsa. Good thing we don’t have to change our own diapers!

    I hope your mommy gets better soon. Your mommy and daddy seem like very fun parents. I think this means you will grow up to be a little weird but your extreme coolness will completely make up for it.

  • Abbey

    Thank you for sharing this with us so that we can send our good vibes to you. Thanks for always shedding light on some of the world’s unfavourable topics. Thank you for having the courage to show us all that it CAN happen to anyone. Thank you for seeing the funny side in everything that happens to you.

    Thank you for being you. You are brave, talented and wonderful.

  • Julia

    I have became obsessed with doocing. We love and miss you Heather :) Tons of good vibes to dad and Leta too!

  • danni

    Thank you for keeping “us” updated on what is going on. We would have noticed if dooce was missing and an online Amber Alert would have been dramatic. Since I don’t pray I will have a drink for the three of you and extra belly scratches for Chuck. Leta I hope you share your refried beans with Chuck and they are really tasty if you melt some cheese on them. Happy farting baby frog.

  • Cristina

    Thank you for sharing your lives with us, even through times like these. I know you will overcome this because you are so lucky to have each other, and because of all the love that surrounds you–from your families, Chuck, Leta, and…er…the internet…

  • anna

    I had a dream about Dooce last night — we were hanging out at an ice cream party that was on the banks of a wide river. We had a lot of fun piling on the ice cream, dipping our cones in magic shell (remember magic shell? It’s awesome), and covering them with nuts and sprinkles and marshmallows. The cones were about a foot tall when we finished building them.

    My point is, I almost never have such happy dreams. I figured that this was evidence of the tremendous amount of love and good vibes that are surrounding Dooce these days — so much that it’s overflowing into my dreams.

    So, Dooce, here’s to some ice cream and happiness and hanging out by a river for you in real life, and soon.

  • nicole

    You are definitely in my thoughts. Jon and Heather, I really admire both of you and I hope that things continue to improve.

    Wishing you all the best!

  • ags

    i am sending you my bestest thoughts and warmest love and kindest wishes. heather, can’t wait to have you back and hear you bash some more mormons. you make my boring days in this little cubicle called office!!! so get well, woman :)

  • anne

    I don’t have anything wondrous to add to all the love here… just another voice in the crowd pulling for your family and sending love and hope and prayers your way. You’re all four in my heart.

    All the best.

  • mamabird

    Sending much love to the blurbodoocery. Heather you are amazingly strong! I’m so glad you are feeling a little better and was delighted to hear about the nap! That’s progress. Jon- you rock. Keep on supporting her and loving her like crazy. Leta- be super proud of your brave mama and keep on eating those beans!
    Best, best wishes for you all.

  • Shan

    *sends good vibes*

  • Jess

    Dooce & Jon – I will add my voice to the chorus and say I am thinking of both of you – your courage is an inspiration to so many of us here in cyberland – best wishes to you and your super cute family!.

  • Beth

    Thank you both for sharing your story with us. I should have sought treatment for anxiety and depression soon after my son was born five years ago. Since that time he has been in treatment for an autism spectrum disorder and my anxiety and depression have further spiraled out of control. With the help of my mother, I went to a doctor three weeks ago. Thank you, Dooce, for having the courage to help others by sharing your experience with us. You certainly helped me. And my family.

    Thank you. Best wishes to you, Jon, and Leta. You are in my prayers.

  • kbow

    Thank you for sharing your story, Heather. You’re helping a lot of people as you mend yourself and the good karma in that more than most of us will have in our lifetimes!

  • mad

    Sending love, good wishes, healing, sleepiness, and all sorts of other things I can’t figure out how to say. Thank you for sharing this part of your story with all of us who’ve become so attached to you, Heather, and Leta through your wonderful words.

  • Shannon

    Good thoughts, energy, vibes, prayers, and anything else that will help. I have been reading dooce for a couple years and went thru pregnancy at the same time. My son was born 2-17. I was able to actually crack a smile and laugh during the 9 months of morning sickness I had while I was reading her post.

    Leta is adorable and if she loves the beans, feed away. Some babies are picky eaters and the ones who are not are just easier to feed the healthy food to.

  • robyn

    Nathan (who was born about 2 hours before Leta), his father and I all send all our best wishes to your family today — you’ve been in our thoughts, and we hope the sun is shining brightly over there once again!

  • elaine

    since i am post-partum myself, reading the recent posts on blurb and dooce have moved me immensely. heather has been most brave and strong when she thought she was her weakest. you are all so very fortunate to have one another in this trying time. mazel tov.

  • reenie

    She’s HOME!
    Sorry for the shamelessness of using Blurb to get to Dooce, but:
    Dooce –
    I’m so glad to hear you have a doctor who cares about YOU. Bet that good cry was full of blessed release. I can imagine the sweetness of holding your little frog baby at home again.

  • Pia

    I hope get-well wishes and prayers travel fast on the Internet… Hang in there, Heather. And Jon, you are one awesome husband!

  • Erika

    Dooce-It does offer perspective…I AM SO glad you are feeling hopeful!

    Love -Erika

  • Leannder

    Woooooo hooooo!! The Dooce is coming home..

    I am so glad you are feeling better.

  • Kristin

    You are two of the most fantabulous people walking the earth. Considering the dim view I take of most of our species, that’s high praise indeed. There is no way the universe is not going to smother you in comfort and kisses, and I’m adding my small prayer that it gets off its ass and does so soon. Thanks to the whole family for bringing me daily glee, and here’s wishing you yours and then some.

  • Jason

    Just read…welcome back. We missed you. Thank goodness for people like you, Jon and Heather. I wish there was a way we could have done more for you guys through this. If you ever need anything…anything, let us know.

  • QueenJulie

    Heather’s coming home! It’s ridiculous how happy I am about that, considering I don’t know her. But I’m so, so glad to hear she’s doing better. Her last post sounded great.
    And Heather, I’m in love with your doctor. Can I please have him? Mine is a horrible, horrible woman who, I am convinced, hates me. Yours sounds lovely. :)

  • melanie

    i’ve been thinking about the both of you (& leta!) since heather’s post last thursday. i’m so glad things are looking up, not that there was ever any doubt that they would. it goes without saying, but i, too, have been sending all things positive (vibes, thoughts, prayers, etc.) your way. you guys are in my thoughts, and i wish you nothing but happiness. i’m glad to see that heather’s spirit remains as strong as ever, and that her hate for bob costas lives on. there is absolutely nothing wrong with hating bob costas, by the way. i tend towards defining that as “healthy.” seriously, i am inspired by heather’s ability to laugh in the face of depression. you kick the shit out of that sadness, girl! beat it down!
    take care, y’all.

  • melanie

    umm, that’s not what i typed.
    i’ve been thinking about the both of you (& leta!) since i read heather’s post last thursday. i’m glad things are looking up, not that i ever doubted they would. i’m also glad to see that heather has remained as spirited as ever through this ordeal. i, for one, tend towards defining hate for bob costas as “healthy.” there’s nothing wrong with hating bob costas. i’m also inspired by heather’s ability to laugh in the face of depression. you kick the shit out of that sadness, girl! i wish nothing but happiness for your lovely little family. take care, y’all.

  • beachgal

    Hooray! Dooce is feeling better! I’m so happy to hear the news. Leta is one lucky little girl to have such a brave mama. Here’s to a quick road to a LONG recovery. (does that make sense…what i mean is i hope you quickly recover long term. blah)

  • Sarah

    Heather and Jon…I’m so glad Heather feels better and will be coming home SOON! And I’m also so happy that you and your doctor are in synch and that he’s really making a difference in your treatment. I feel blessed that I found an eqally caring psychiatrist who has made a huge positive impact on my life and kept me alive several times over.

    So glad that the whole family sounds like they’re doing well. You have set such a loving example.

  • Meg

    I just read Unlocked Part 2, and am feeling so glad for you, Heather. I’m really excited that you have a new perspective, a doctor who knows your pain is real, and a plan to help you feel better. Thank you for writing and being honest and not worrying about a stigma attached to any of what you’ve gone through. I have issues with anxiety, myself, and I often worry about what it’ll be like when I have kids. Of course, I am not actually planning on having children for about six or seven more years, but hey, that’s anxiety for ya. Anyway, I’m feeling reassured to know that even though you’ve gone through a very tough time, you’re now coming out of it. That gives me hope for my own future. To know that anxiety does not translate to permanently dark roads ahead is a good thing. So glad you’re feeling better!

    Jon, thanks for posting about Heather and for posting Heather’s writing. You two seem like such a loving couple.

    Best to you both, and to Leta and Chuck. Gushy internet love from a complete stranger, for everyone! Take care, you guys.

  • patricia

    That poor woman. After all she’s been through, she has to listen to Costas in the hospital? And what the hell is with his faux-Brokaw hair?

    Take care, all you Armstrongs.

  • JenE

    I’m so glad Heather is home! I’ve been thinking of the entire Armstrong family a lot lately. May you continue to feel better and find sunshine in each new day!

  • Gertrude McFuzz

    Best wishes to you.

  • carrie

    I have been reading heather’s site and yours for some time now well for almost a year or over a year I guess and I have never enjoyed reading a site more than I do heathers. It always seems when I need a laugh or a smile that she posted a funny picture or told a funny story.

    I just wish in some way we could all give back what Heather has given us. Or at least I know what she has given me, Entertainment and Joy and courage to know everything is going to be okay.

    I guess all I truely have to offer is my support to your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you daily.

  • Trance

    Glad to hear Heather is out of the clink and free of icky hospital Toothpaste/prep H. Enjoy the reunionizing. :)

  • Maggie

    As a psychiatry resident in nyc, I have recently begun to recommend Heather’s site to all my PPD (post-partum depression) patients. Her site has helped many of my patients realize they are not alone and that help is available to them. Although people are often aware of PPD, they do not realize that “being depressed” does not mean “being unable to get out of bed and sleeping all the time.” Depression comes in many flavors, including with anxiety, sleeplessness, and even psychosis. Many people go through daily life clinically depressed, hangin on by some invisible thread of strength.

    Heather, I know that these struggles in your life will pass and you will get over this hurdle intact and stronger than ever. The only way to get better is to accept that you cannot do it alone and ask for help, which you have done so courageously. There is no shame in asking for help. Remember to not get discouraged if some meds don’t work immediately for you–many medications take weeks or months to work and you have to be willing to stake a trial before you toss them and try something new. When these drugs work, they can be miraculous so try to give them a chance.

    It’s okay to be sad/upset/anxious after having a baby, but when these feelings persist and interfere with your daily living, something must be done. Thank you for providing an example for others, and please remember to take care of yourself first. We readers will understand if you do not post for us as long as you remain healthy. If you ever feel like you want to hurt yourself or others, you must tell someone, please–it is the only way to get help.

    Good luck to you and Jon, and cute little Leta who has a kick-ass mom to look up to.

    (p.s., this is completely off topic, but I wish I could donate some funds to you guys for keeping these sites updated so regularly–however, my current status as an underpaid, overworked resident barely leaves me enough cash to pay my rent so I’ll have to defer donations until I’m a rich MD. For some extra cash Heather should try modelling, she’s tall and strikingly beautiful and I’d buy whatever she was selling)

  • Karen From Across the World

    She’s going home! Yehey!


  • Danika

    I am so relieved to read that you are doing better Heather! I can’t even describe how much I care for all of you Armstrongs. Thanks for giving us a look into your life and not keeping your suffereing from us. At least we can send our love to you through your rough times. It also helps to know that the most perfect family in the world also has their problems.

    *sending lots of love and hugs*

  • Tiny Coconut

    A veteran of many of Heather’s woes myself, I’m hanging on your–and her–every word and sending along thoughts of strength and calm. If anyone deserves them, it’s you guys.

  • sam the girl

    hooray for Heather coming home! There has been an amazing amount of love and support aimed at you, honey, so don’t be dismayed if you’re a little dizzy. You can use all the exclamation points you desire – we’re hanging on your every word.

  • Shanna

    Having suffered with anxiety & depression most of my life, I can certainly appreciate what all Heather has been through. But what I know of her from reading her blog, she is amazingly strong and will make it through this – happy days ahead for your whole family; I truly see it.

  • Seanie

    Well, I just emailed Heather, and then read this. So here’s a comment as well!

    I wanted to let you know that you have a big group of people (cool, fun, glad you know them kind of people) in the Seattle area who are wishing you, Heather, and Leta the very very best.

    Seattle, WA

  • Bob SF

    I know you mentioned that someone would probably chastise you for giving Leta refried beans, and I will, but not for why you think.

    THINK OF THE POOP! Oh, you poor man, THE POOP!

    (Glad to read Heather is doing better – I teared up when I read she took a nap.)

  • Weezy

    I too have suffered from depression and anxiety most of my life. Dooce, you are so brave for getting help and sharing your journey with all of us. And Jon, you have such compassion and strength. Thank you to both of you for sharing your life with us. I’m sending many prayers and good wishes your way.

  • Erika

    “Hope” is the thing with feathers-
    That perches in the soul-
    And sings the tune without words-
    And never stops – at all –

    And sweetest – in the Gale – is heard –
    And sore must be the storm –
    That could abash the little Bird
    That kept so many warm –

    I’ve heard it in the chillest land –
    And on the farthest Sea
    Yet,never, in Extremity
    Did it ask a crumb – of Me.

    Emily Dickinson

    I am sending waves of hope in the direction of the Armstrong family. Sometimes it is the most difficult thing to hold on to, and sometimes it is the only thing. The Internet loves its Dooce and Jon and Leta, and will float you each a little extra hope in these days. The pleasure is ours to know that we can give back something to the Armstrong clan.

    Be well.

  • Kimberley

    She’s coming home!!
    Warm Canadian love coming your way!!
    ( I also cannot stop with the exclamation points!!)

  • Kayjay

    I’m so glad that Heather had a good experience with her doctor, and even happier to know that she is coming home. Much love and prayers for the whole Armstrong family.

  • Peach

    I am so glad to hear Heather is coming home. I hope she will be feeling a lot better.

    I only just found out about her hospitalization.

    My prayers and good wishes go out to you Jon and Heather and Leta……..Happy Homecoming!!!

  • rowan

    if you guys need a bit of a break, I’ll babysit Leta for a bit if you like. Just put her on the next plane to Australia and I’ll pick her up, show her a kangaroo or two, and take her to the outback where she can scream and no one will hear her.

    If a Leta screams and no one hears her, did she scream at all?

  • Dasha

    I am so happy and relieved to hear that you’re doing better, Heather. As someone who deals with anxiety/panic disorder herself, it does my heart good to see how open you are with this stuff. Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s an ILLNESS! I am sure that your words are doing a lot of good for people who are suffering in silence.

    Jon and Leta, I’m thinking of you, too! I know this must be an incredibly tough time for you and your love for Heather is so heartening.

    The three of you (and Chuck, too) are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Cyn

    I sent Heather an email but I will post here as well.
    I am so glad to hear that Heather is doing better. I read both your sites regularly and I really enjoy hearing about your lives and views on life. Jon you are an awesome hubby. Thank you for being there for Heather. My prayers will continue to be with you both.

  • Mish

    I’ll just come back in 44 comments….But I really wish I had a doctor like Heathers. All the ones I have been to suck soo bad that I am actually considering doing something w/ that so far useless BS in Psych.

  • Danika

    Hmm could we get the address to the doctor that helped you out Dooce. I want to thank him for caring enough and helping you get on the path to betterness….

    sending lots of love to you from Edmonton

  • Amnesia

    Welcome home Heather!!!!!

  • Amnesia

    Welcome home Heather!!!!!

  • kim

    i wonder… has bob costas ever googled his name, found heather’s site and wonders why the hell this ex-mormon from utah hates him? i saw bob costas once- at a phish concert of all places. and he’s from st. louis- my hometown- so i can’t hate him. but i will pay attention to his voice now and always remember how much dooce despises it!

  • LisaG

    I was so happy to read Heather’s latest post. It’s amazing how just the smallest glimmer of hope, just one caring, competent doctor in a sea of nothingness can change your life. I’ve been there, sister!

    Happy Homecoming – our very very best to you –

  • Dawn

    Fantastic News. Hope you have a peaceful transition back into the swing of things, Heather and that the road ahead is nurturing. How proud you should be for making the human condition shine through as brightly as it has in honor of your recovery. I feel blessed and proud to be part of all this. Joy to you, Jon, Leta and the Chuckmeister. Love, Dawn

  • j

    So happy to hear that things are looking up for you . . .

    Best wishes from Nebraska

  • Jazzy

    I hope that Heather feels better. Her site makes me laugh and cry. What more could you ask for? Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  • emily

    jon & heather-
    honest to goodness props to both of you for being so strong. i am so proud of you both for always supporting each other and the wonderful family you have created. taking steps to treat a problem – of any kind – is always hard, but, as you’ve seen, you have an amazing support system. i have been thinking of y’all so much that last night i dreamt i met you. (who’s in need of some help?! :)
    keep us posted,

  • http://- TOPS

    Hey, this aint a personal service, who is heather anyway?

  • Kimberley

    Get off this page! lol … Just kidding.
    Heather is a wonderful, brave, strong woman who friggin’ rocks. That’s who she is.

  • Amy

    If you want to get any publishers to bite, just point them to this very string of messages for Her Dooceness. I couldn’t even read them all..sheesh!

    P.J. Harvey rocks!! Rawwwwr

  • Dawn

    Sending loving and warm vibes to welcome you home. Hope your armpits are ready as I suspect someone will want to nuzzle right in there. I would have at a guess a certain chefette might have a special refried meal waiting. There is no doubt that one magical husband will rejoice to have you back.
    Thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

  • Surfer

    I just read Heather’s newsletter…WELCOME HOME, INDIE ROCK MAMA!!! Love and good wishes for better days ahead! Oh, it’s so wonderful to see your whole family together again. All is right with the world.

  • beachgal

    Welcome home, Dooce!!! I’m sure you are so relieved. Heather, your newsletter brought tears to my eyes. My goodness, woman, you can write. You take pretty damn good pictures, too. The one of Leta peeking up over the shelf in the highchair brought MORE tears. She is a beautiful baby, and I’m so glad she is bringing you joy! I love how you describe her relationship with Chuck, cause I can relate, I have the same thing going on with my little boy and my two dogs.

    Umm…in case you didn’t notice, I think you’re awesome, and I’m horribly happy that you are feeling better.

    Much love from the beach in SC.

  • beachgal

    well, half of my post disappeared. I really need to start copying before posting in case that happens…….

    What is missing is something about me crying over your newest post, because the joy just comes through in your writing and I’m so so so happy for you. And I love your pictures. The one with Leta in the highchair peeking up is just incredible.

    Keeping sharing your joy, it helps others, in ways you’ll never know.

  • Lori

    I did a shot of whiskey and wrapped a spaghetti noodle around my dog’s snout for you guys last Friday. Serious. Welcome home. Love from the midwest.

  • Becca

    It’s all been said, but I just want y’all to know I’m here, too, thinking of you all. Positive thoughts and vibes going your way.

  • Amy

    Welcome Home!!

  • Shawna

    I’m so glad Heather’s feeling better and home again! I hope it’s the beginning of a trend.

  • Angie

    Sweet Lordie you two – those pics of Little Byron are just TOO CUTE. :)

    Heather – I’m glad the hospital is what you needed. You are much braver than most women out there, and I think you are an even better mother for it. Just know that it is not your fault, and you have shown great courage in trying to make things okay.

    Jon – You have seriously proven what it is to be a man , a wonderful husband and an amazing father. What you’ve been through would cause many men to leave or become bitter, and you haven’t done either. From all the women here, we hope you write a book or something because good god there are NOT enough of you.

    Leta – Sweeta Leta Pita. You have two amazingly smart, funny and loving parents. When you’re a rebellious teenager. take it a little easy on these two, ok? I mean, they had to clean up the BEANS.

    Prime Minister – bark bark. Bark Bark Bark. *scratch*

    I’m very very happy for you two, and I look forward to many more years of the blurbodoocery. Welcome home!

  • Lara

    You guys have an amazing relationship and an amazing family and i jsut *really* believe that you’re going to make it through all of this and be ok because you all have each other. I hope I’m lucky enough to find what you guys have someday…

  • Karen From Across the World

    Welcome home Dooce! :-)

    Great pics btw.

  • Abby

    Yay! Heather’s home. Tell her to take it as easy as possible-it can be kind of scary at first (OK, maybe that was just me!). Sending good thoughts to all 4 of you (have to include Chuck!).

  • Leslie

    So glad you’re home and happy and feeling better. You make me think that one day I can be a good mama too. Much love to you all.

  • Uncle Pip

    I have been reading blurb and dooce for a while now (don’t even know how long). I have read your trials and tribulations, and always rooted for you guys.

    Dooce you are gorgeous, smart, funny and perfect! If you ever doubt it then look at all the love that even strangers feel for you and your family (canine included). You’re in our hearts and in our minds… gawd you even got me quoting a rod stewart song!

    Blurb… you have a wife that most of us wished we had: strong, beatuful, witty and more. You also have a beard that some of us wished we had (stuck with a bit of a keanu reeves one myself).

    Leta, your parents kick ass. If anyone tells you otherwise, let the internet know — we’ll put them right!

    Chuck, enjoy the cheerios while they last. I’m sure you have a lifetime of snacks ahead of you, but I bet you will remember the cheerios and taste of baby face the most!

    Well, I guess I’d better finish. I’m glad to be but one voice in the many that feel love and hope towards your family.

  • Dale Cruse

    Jon and Heather,

    My best wishes and thoughts are with you both and your entire family now.

    Nothing speeds healing like a new Gmail account. I have five invites to give away so email me if you ’em.


  • dj blurb

    There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t realize just how amazing my wife is. I’m the luckiest man to be able to share my life with Heather. It is delicious.